[Golden Legacy]

I'm typing this from the airport terminal, heading back to college, and I'm already missing my family. Achingly, heart-wrenchingly so. Hugging my mother goodbye was the hardest thing I've had to do in a long time, and though I've gone through this once (for first semester), it still really hurts.

:P

[Eugine]

...

I dunno what to say exactly, but Riad eventually you will have to leave the comforts of your parents home permanently. And you know what? It's gonna get even harder x.x

Honestly, family is something to miss, but somehow I think you shouldn't miss them cuz they are the one thing you can return to whenever you want. Plus, continuing to miss your family will directly affect you at college.
- It can inhibit your chances of making friends, cuz everyone you meet will seem inferior to your family.
- Make you perform poorly at college cuz you just wouldn't have the right frame of mind to do well if you constantly want to see your family.

[Platinum Sun]

Leaving home was one of the worst days of my life. The two months I spent at Boot Camp were the longest time I'd ever spent away from my family. It does get easier in some ways. I've gone days without thinking about them, even though that sounds a bit callous I suppose. It seemed like, after I visited them once or twice and came back, it felt a lot more normal to be away. I just try not to let it get to me for the most part.

[ZephyrAnalea]

Sorry to hear that you are feeling down. I hope you feel better soon.
Instead of being sad that you are not with your parents, try to be happy that you will see them again at the end of the semester. Each day in between will just make the reunion that much better. Think of it as a mini-vacation, but you're learning.
Good luck at school.

[Moonear]

Sorry man, I hope you feel better soon! I felt really sad, when my brother (who I'm really close to) left for medical school and he wouldn't be coming back for 3-4 months.

[I'm Always BROKE]

Yeah I feel for you man. You've mentoined missing your family quite some time at the forums, I can't quite relate with you though since I never went away from home so long as you. Still, I'd like to let you know that I really sympatise your feelings, good luck with school.

[TheEnglishman]

*pats back*
It never seemed to affect my sisters that much, though obviously it was difficult to tell since they were away. I think it'll affect me for awhile when I go to uni, but I'll get used to it.

[Lightning Star]

I understand too. My family, though they've been a pain sometimes and quite messed up, are the one thing I can return to when the going gets tough, especially my sister and my parents. I think a way to cope with this may be to send them an e-mail every weekend or so to see how they're doing, or call them. Eventually taper it off to every two weeks or whatever. But I don't know how that'll work since I haven't left home yet.

Last night my mom did my hair for formal, and I felt bad because she spent all of her day helping me prepare. She said it was alright, because she loves to be "mummy" and that's her purpose in life. I asked her if she was looking forward to when I moved out next year, and she said it was going to be hard, and I told her I didn't know if I wanted to move out so quickly either. Whenever I need someone to talk to, she's (almost) always there, and I know she'll give me advice that is only looking out for my well being, Same with my sister.

Maybe make it a point to visit them every month or so, that way it doesn't get too hard to be without them if you see them more often.

[kate]

Aww poor snookums.

I've never left home for a reeeally long time...well except last summer when I was gone for 5 weeks <.<

If it helps any I'm leaving home in july to go to a country where I don't know anyone and I'm never going to see Canada or my home again...I'm actually quite petrified even though it was my decision....Okay I don't know how that'll help, but at least you know there are other people in the same boat.

and hey! You've got us, we're like family <.< Plus you'll still be in contact with them.

cheer up kthxbai :B

[Aquamarine]

Reading your post really made me sad too GL, because I have a very hard time being away for just 10 days from my family and I can't even imagine what you must be feeling like. I hope you feel better soon.

kate, on Jan 13 2008, 09:21 PM, said:

If it helps any I'm leaving home in july to go to a country where I don't know anyone and I'm never going to see Canada or my home again...I'm actually quite petrified even though it was my decision....Okay I don't know how that'll help, but at least you know there are other people in the same boat.

What, you're leaving your country and the people you know forever? Why? Where are you going?

[Toasty]

Whenever I've went on any kind of church trip, or anything else that invloved me being away from my family, I never really got homesick. But, I guess havinge friends around helped a lot. I'm not sure what I'll feel like when I go off to college.

But as long as you have a few really good friends at college, you should be fine.

And btw, good luck with your second semester.

[kate]

I'm moving to england and then new zealand for uni. Costs way too much to fly back to Canada, so I'll probably never make it, being a starving student and all.

[Eugine]

kate, on Jan 13 2008, 06:02 PM, said:

I'm moving to england and then new zealand for uni. Costs way too much to fly back to Canada, so I'll probably never make it, being a starving student and all.

lol.

[Aquamarine]

I've always got some really good friends when I'm away for a prolonged period of time, but that still doesn't help. Maybe because my brother is simply my best friend, and the person I love most in the world and spend the most time with.

EDIT: Didn't see kate's post. Why are you going to those countries? EDIT2: Somehow missed your explanation again. Ok.

[kate]

I'm not the person you love the most in the world, aqua?!? *emo tear*

whelp, guess murder suicide's the only answer

[Eugine]

Brother love 'eh... Me and (step) bro are way too different for me to always be around him.

[Aquamarine]

kate, on Jan 13 2008, 11:05 PM, said:

I'm not the person you love the most in the world, aqua?!? *emo tear*

whelp, guess murder suicide's the only answer

... Who are you again?

[Toasty]

Your wife.

[Aquamarine]

*Girly scream*

[kate]

goddammit why am I married to so many people/things??

[Drizzy Drake]

kate, on Jan 13 2008, 05:57 PM, said:

goddammit why am I married to so many people/things??

And you gave birth to my child. He better not grow up a Coldplay fan.

[kate]

shh, don't tell my multiple husbands/wives/inanimate objects that I'm carrying your love child.

....I could so star in a soap opera :P

[Drizzy Drake]

Oh ya, um, never mind. Ya, we don't have a child. You never saw that Water Dude.

[Eugine]

Coldplay pwns tyvm.

[Drizzy Drake]

Tyvm???

[Eugine]

thank you very much ^^.

[Drizzy Drake]

Coldplay sucks, sorry.

But they are mainstream, so they make mnoey. But nooooo, bands like Atreyu, who have WAYYY more talented bassists, guitarists, and drummers, are so underrated.

[Eugine]

Well, it's your opinion.

And what's wrong with being mainstream? I'm sure 'Atreyu' is dieing to become mainstram also :ph34r:

[Drizzy Drake]

.eugine, on Jan 13 2008, 06:38 PM, said:

Well, it's your opinion.

And what's wrong with being mainstream? I'm sure 'Atreyu' is dieing to become mainstram also :ph34r:

Well nothing is wrong with beeing mainstream, it's just that most of the non-mainstream bands, are the more talented ones. ALot fo the mainstream bands nowadays, are really bad, but fangirls lie them, it's jsut annoying. And Atreyu have been doing their kind of music for 5 albums, if they wanted to go mainstream, they would've sold out.

[Eugine]

I agree, kinda. Most mainstream bands downplay their uniqueness to appeal to a wider audience. But you know, most mainstream artists weren't mainstream once upon a time.

And there are great mainstream bands, such as... Coldplay :ph34r:

Anyway, lets change the topic so GL doesn't warn us :mellow:.

[Drizzy Drake]

Ya but most mainstream bands ONLY change their sound to get money. And alot of them do it within 2 albums. Like this One Republic band, I guarantee within 2 monthes, nobody will remember them.

[Eugine]

lol, I guess. Apologize is an awesome song though.

[Drizzy Drake]

.eugine, on Jan 13 2008, 06:52 PM, said:

lol, I guess. Apologize is an awesome song though.

:ph34r:. You should be ashamed. MAINSTREAM GROUPIE. I know you probably won't liek their style of music, but download The Crimson by Atreyu, and tell me that they aren't better musicians than any mainstream band out there.

[Eugine]

Well, is there any 'lighter' song from them? I dislike listening to English bands I cannot understand. That's why I listen to Jpop :ph34r:

[Drizzy Drake]

Ha, you learn to understand it. Um, lighter song. Hmm. Let me think.

Untitled Finale.

But can you see that they are way more talented than One Republic or Hedly.

[Caael]

Skidzorz, on Jan 14 2008, 12:50 AM, said:

Ya but most mainstream bands ONLY change their sound to get money. And alot of them do it within 2 albums. Like this One Republic band, I guarantee within 2 monthes, nobody will remember them.

Linkin Park, Dream Theater, Chili's...


Do what ZA said; think of every day as getting closer to being with them again, instead of how long you've been away from them. That way you have a target to meet, you want to impress them when you next see them.

[Drizzy Drake]

Or just don't listen to mainstream? Ha no, I do like some mainstream bands, but it's a very small number.

[Caael]

Oh god...

Another ' Mainstream=bad' fanboy. Alright, i'm not starting an arguement, i'm going to say this and you're not going to question it. Just because a band is mainstream doesn't mean they are bad. Are Foo Fighters bad? Are Blue Man Group bad? Exactly.

[Moonear]

I agree with Caael, mainstream can be good. In fact, most of the time, it is pretty good.

[Drizzy Drake]

Earth Dude, on Jan 13 2008, 08:21 PM, said:

Oh god...

Another ' Mainstream=bad' fanboy. Alright, i'm not starting an arguement, i'm going to say this and you're not going to question it. Just because a band is mainstream doesn't mean they are bad. Are Foo Fighters bad? Are Blue Man Group bad? Exactly.

I agree with you there, that's why I said I like FEW mainstream bands. And that opinion is more so as of late, because lately alot of bands have been comeing out that sound exactly alike. Simple Plan, Hedly, and bands of that nature. Mainstream doesn't equal bad, so don't put words in my mouth. But alot of the mainstream coming out LATELY has been, for lack of a better word, s**t.

[Aquamarine]

Guys, you've really gone off-topic now, I don't think it's fair on GL.

[Eugine]

Yea... All my fault.

Still waiting for GL to respond...

[Golden Legacy]

.eugine, on Jan 13 2008, 01:38 PM, said:

...

I dunno what to say exactly, but Riad eventually you will have to leave the comforts of your parents home permanently. And you know what? It's gonna get even harder x.x

Honestly, family is something to miss, but somehow I think you shouldn't miss them cuz they are the one thing you can return to whenever you want. Plus, continuing to miss your family will directly affect you at college.
- It can inhibit your chances of making friends, cuz everyone you meet will seem inferior to your family.
- Make you perform poorly at college cuz you just wouldn't have the right frame of mind to do well if you constantly want to see your family.

For certain... that's what happened to me first semester. It's hard because there's really no one (yet) who I feel really close to. That's a lot of it - not just leaving family but leaving the comforts of home behind, and knowing that you're alone (or more alone, rather). It can be pretty daunting.

Platinum Sun, on Jan 13 2008, 02:45 PM, said:

Leaving home was one of the worst days of my life. The two months I spent at Boot Camp were the longest time I'd ever spent away from my family. It does get easier in some ways. I've gone days without thinking about them, even though that sounds a bit callous I suppose. It seemed like, after I visited them once or twice and came back, it felt a lot more normal to be away. I just try not to let it get to me for the most part.

That much is true - I can definitely say I'm not as sad as I was last semester (or rather, I'm still very sad, but I'm coping with it better). That's not saying much in my case, unfortunately.

ZephyrAnalea, on Jan 13 2008, 02:57 PM, said:

Sorry to hear that you are feeling down. I hope you feel better soon.
Instead of being sad that you are not with your parents, try to be happy that you will see them again at the end of the semester. Each day in between will just make the reunion that much better. Think of it as a mini-vacation, but you're learning.
Good luck at school.

Some of the best advice I've ever heard in my life, honestly. Thank you Zeph. :ph34r:

ihatekraden, on Jan 13 2008, 03:01 PM, said:

Sorry man, I hope you feel better soon! I felt really sad, when my brother (who I'm really close to) left for medical school and he wouldn't be coming back for 3-4 months.

Heh, I wonder if that's what my younger siblings are going through now that I'm in college?

Fire Dude, on Jan 13 2008, 03:07 PM, said:

Yeah I feel for you man. You've mentoined missing your family quite some time at the forums, I can't quite relate with you though since I never went away from home so long as you. Still, I'd like to let you know that I really sympatise your feelings, good luck with school.

Appreciate every word, thanks.

Me111, on Jan 13 2008, 03:15 PM, said:

*pats back*
It never seemed to affect my sisters that much, though obviously it was difficult to tell since they were away. I think it'll affect me for awhile when I go to uni, but I'll get used to it.

That's true, I try not to show it to my parents. They were there when I was crying as I left home, but as my dad was taking me to the airport, I did my best to hide it, and even now I've not mentioned anything about it. I suppose it's best - the reason why I'm away from home is not to get all upset over it, right?

Icy, on Jan 13 2008, 04:17 PM, said:

I understand too. My family, though they've been a pain sometimes and quite messed up, are the one thing I can return to when the going gets tough, especially my sister and my parents. I think a way to cope with this may be to send them an e-mail every weekend or so to see how they're doing, or call them. Eventually taper it off to every two weeks or whatever. But I don't know how that'll work since I haven't left home yet.

Last night my mom did my hair for formal, and I felt bad because she spent all of her day helping me prepare. She said it was alright, because she loves to be "mummy" and that's her purpose in life. I asked her if she was looking forward to when I moved out next year, and she said it was going to be hard, and I told her I didn't know if I wanted to move out so quickly either. Whenever I need someone to talk to, she's (almost) always there, and I know she'll give me advice that is only looking out for my well being, Same with my sister.

Maybe make it a point to visit them every month or so, that way it doesn't get too hard to be without them if you see them more often.

Of course I'll be in contact with them every day (I've promised). And yes, parents are always there for you... I remember when I was coming home for winter break in December, my mom called me two weeks beforehand and asked me what I wanted her to cook for dinner, my favorite dish, anything. Little things like that mean the world to me with the thought and care they show.

kate, on Jan 13 2008, 04:21 PM, said:

Aww poor snookums.

I've never left home for a reeeally long time...well except last summer when I was gone for 5 weeks <.<

If it helps any I'm leaving home in july to go to a country where I don't know anyone and I'm never going to see Canada or my home again...I'm actually quite petrified even though it was my decision....Okay I don't know how that'll help, but at least you know there are other people in the same boat.

and hey! You've got us, we're like family <.< Plus you'll still be in contact with them.

cheer up kthxbai :B

haha, lova ya hunny bunny.

Water Dude, on Jan 13 2008, 05:12 PM, said:

Reading your post really made me sad too GL, because I have a very hard time being away for just 10 days from my family and I can't even imagine what you must be feeling like. I hope you feel better soon.

Thanks Stev, appreciate it.

Dude of Wind, on Jan 13 2008, 05:59 PM, said:

Whenever I've went on any kind of church trip, or anything else that invloved me being away from my family, I never really got homesick. But, I guess havinge friends around helped a lot. I'm not sure what I'll feel like when I go off to college.

But as long as you have a few really good friends at college, you should be fine.

And btw, good luck with your second semester.

(Close) friends take time to make, so I suppose that makes it harder. Though, not to mention, I already feel as though I have the best friends in the world from high school... I'm still trying to get over the fact that a lot of us have separated, I honestly don't think I can find better people than them. But, as Eugine mentioned in the first quote above, that does hinder your ability to meet new people, so it's something that I do definitely need to work on. And thanks for the good luck.

---
I can't tell you how much all your words have comforted me, I really appreciate it more than I can say in words. I'm still feeling a little sad, but I've definitely composed myself and am coping to a much better degree now.

[TheEnglishman]

If it makes you feel better, you can rest safe in the knowledge that a group of strangers on the internet are happy to be your friends. :ph34r:

[Split Infinity]

I guess I've arrived too late to offer my words, but I will say that you should be proud of yourself now that you're taking control of your life, and hey, your destiny.

[Eugine]

Golden Legacy, on Jan 14 2008, 12:26 PM, said:

(Close) friends take time to make, so I suppose that makes it harder. Though, not to mention, I already feel as though I have the best friends in the world from high school... I'm still trying to get over the fact that a lot of us have separated, I honestly don't think I can find better people than them. But, as Eugine mentioned in the first quote above, that does hinder your ability to meet new people, so it's something that I do definitely need to work on. And thanks for the good luck.

I use to think like this GL, but open up and you will realise how wrong you are. You will find people who are interested in the same career and golds as you, and somehow things will get much better

[Golden Legacy]

I really hope so Eugine. I would honestly love to be proven wrong right now, and to have those close friends (or even close friend) appear right now. I just feel so different, part of it is that I'm coming from a very diverse city and school (Stuyvesant High School, located in the heart of NYC) to Boston, which is a lot less racially diverse (mostly white, preppy, affluent kids here) who are very sheltered and just have different views of the world than what I'm accustomed to.

And plus, my best friends were awesome. I was going to ask them to be my best men at my wedding. :)

[Toasty]

I hate how so few of the kids at my school are so sheltered. MTV is as close to politics or REAL news as they get. And that's not saying much. Dang preps. :)

I'm sure you'll find SOME cultured people there.

[Caael]

Well show people how fun you are to be around, be happy to see people, go places with them, you'll make mates in no time. Where are you living in Uni? What happened to my bro, as he's in a block near his uni, is he made friends with all the people on his floor on the block, because they were all in the same situation; alone, so that brought them all together. He also said to leave your door open when you're in, so people can visit whenever.

[redchi]

Golden Legacy, on Jan 13 2008, 12:18 PM, said:

I'm typing this from the airport terminal, heading back to college, and I'm already missing my family. Achingly, heart-wrenchingly so. Hugging my mother goodbye was the hardest thing I've had to do in a long time, and though I've gone through this once (for first semester), it still really hurts.

:P

give Golden Legacy a hug

[Lightning Star]

Golden Legacy, on Jan 14 2008, 08:11 PM, said:

I really hope so Eugine. I would honestly love to be proven wrong right now, and to have those close friends (or even close friend) appear right now. I just feel so different, part of it is that I'm coming from a very diverse city and school (Stuyvesant High School, located in the heart of NYC) to Boston, which is a lot less racially diverse (mostly white, preppy, affluent kids here) who are very sheltered and just have different views of the world than what I'm accustomed to.

And plus, my best friends were awesome. I was going to ask them to be my best men at my wedding. :P

Huh, it seems like a lot of the North American forum members here live in Boston.

I know what it's like to leave and then have to start all over again. I had awesome friends at my old school, a small christian school that shared the same views and morally uplifting. At first I was excited about leaving the "sheltered-ness" and going to Ironwood (the public school I'm currently attending) where I could be my semi-perverted and outgoing self. But it's hardly glorious. The people are so rude and inconsidirate, and it makes me so upset to see society falling apart so badly. I mean, these people are going to reproduce and bear even worse people. Plus, I don't have any friends that I can confide in as well as I could with my friends from my old school. I have a ton of "fair-weather" friends, but no close ones.

So pretty much, we're in the same boat GL. I'm just waiting it out, being myself, and letting the right friend come to me. In the meantime, these are crucial years for you. College is really when you're shaping the rest of your life. What you major in, how well you do in college will affect your career and ability to support yourself when you get older. Right now, it's just important that you focus on doing well; at least that's what I'm doing. I find that studying really takes up a lot of my time, and I really don't have much time for friends anyways.

Think of it as your goal: Being with your family again is the prize you get for going through these years of college. And while you're running the race, make the best of it. Basically, stick it out, buddy. It'll be over soon :]