[Mysterious Adept]

Yesterday( August 30th, 2006) A friend of mine was riding her moped, when she was sideswiped by someone. she was rushed to the local hospital. The doctors said that they would airlift her to a hospital that could treat her better. They also said, that she might not make it. When she arrived at the Mayo Clinic she was taken to the emergency room. Shortly after, she died.

Now i am young,( i'm still in my teens) and this has never happend to me before. I don't know how to deal with it, Any advice would be much appreciative.

[Golden Legacy]

Terrible... I'm so sorry.

My advice... don't let it in. Let your emotions gush out... cry. Trying to suppress your emotions, saying to yourself that you shouldn't cry, that you should be strong will make it more difficult to get it over with.

Let your emotions run, let them out, for however long it may be...


My prayers are with you.

[Mindpatch]

I´m sorry to hear this.

Getting trough this a period like this is really difficult. Everybody has his/her way of doing so. Find what suits you best and makes you feel comfortable.

[Aquamarine]

... This is such a sad thing to happen to anybody. I'm truly sorry.

I cannot give you a lot of advice since something like this has never happened to me, but I think the best thing to do is what Golden Legacy said.

Did the ******* that knocked her off her moped at least stop to help her? I'm sick and tired of hearing about people killing someone and then driving off... Those people should rot in hell.

[Mars Djinni]

The strong hold their tears in. The stronger let their emotions flow, turning them into inspiration, hope, and thankfullnes that the person was chosen to make a difference in their life.

Take a look at the at the clouds. As you see them gray, she see them white and gold. Know that she's in a better place now. Suffering means nothing to her anymore.

Don't be strong, be stronger. God bless.

[TheEnglishman]

I'm really sorry for you. That sounds horrible.
As for dealing with it, I guess you have to find your own way of mourning.

[Somia]

I really hate to hear things like this.

I fell sorry for you, I really do. I'm more sorry to say that theres nothing I can do to help you.
You have to handle this on your own. I'm sure you have friends and family members there to support you, take some good advices and take a step forward. We cannot revive the dead and that is a fact. Things like this are unpredictable, but they can help to make us strong. Only by walking on your own, you can grow stronger.

Shes not suffering anymore, isn't that right? Even if she isn't there with you, shes probably watching over you from above. Be happy for her sake.

May my blessings be with you.

[Mysterious Adept]

Thank you all so much :blink: I don't have all the details yet, and the thing that makes it that much more difficult is that she was a year older than me and I saw her everywhere. She was like my role-model. Why would anyone do this? Doesn't Everyone try and strive for peace?

[Aquamarine]

I will repeat what I say very often when talking to someone: Humans are the most awful and disgusting creatures of all.

[Lemontime]

Aquamarine, on Sep 1 2006, 06:28 AM, said:

I will repeat what I say very often when talking to someone: Humans are the most awful and disgusting creatures of all.

Heeeeey!

I'm very sorry for your loss. Try taking up a hobby. Something that'll give you alot of time to think about it, and other things. It may help. And take Golden Legacys' advice.
If you're religious, have faith in your faith.

[Mars Djinni]

Mysterious Adept, on Aug 31 2006, 01:21 PM, said:

Thank you all so much :blink: I don't have all the details yet, and the thing that makes it that much more difficult is that she was a year older than me and I saw her everywhere. She was like my role-model. Why would anyone do this? Doesn't Everyone try and strive for peace?

People like that are hard to forget. Like I said, use her memory as a source of inspiration, to take into consideration what she would do in situations. In teh future you might want to dedicate something to her.

I beleive that using her cause for your achievements will really make her name a lot more meaningful.

[Mysterious Adept]

Today( September 2, 2006) was the funeral, and i had to sing at it( along with the rest of the school's choir) and it was one of the hardest things i've ever had to do. Before all this started they had her casket open, so i went to see her. To my surprise she didn't look like herself. Her mouth was so drawn back it looked like she was Fat, and her skin made her look older.

After the funeral, i went to the cemetary to see her coffin get placed inside her resting place. it was then that i found out that the person who did this to my friend, used tactics known as the "hit and run". this information just made it worse. My Community is all in tears over this matter.

[I'm Always BROKE]

Mysterious Adept, on Sep 3 2006, 01:18 AM, said:

Today( September 2, 2006) was the funeral, and i had to sing at it( along with the rest of the school's choir) and it was one of the hardest things i've ever had to do. Before all this started they had her casket open, so i went to see her. To my surprise she didn't look like herself. Her mouth was so drawn back it looked like she was Fat, and her skin made her look older.

After the funeral, i went to the cemetary to see her coffin get placed inside her resting place. it was then that i found out that the person who did this to my friend, used tactics known as the "hit and run". this information just made it worse. My Community is all in tears over this matter.

Ohh god... Im no good with words but... You have my sympathy and respect...

[Split Infinity]

I've lost a few grandfathers in my time but never someone as close as a friend. I'm very sorry for your loss, and I hope you can move on.

[Aquamarine]

Mysterious Adept, on Sep 3 2006, 01:18 AM, said:

Today( September 2, 2006) was the funeral, and i had to sing at it( along with the rest of the school's choir) and it was one of the hardest things i've ever had to do. Before all this started they had her casket open, so i went to see her. To my surprise she didn't look like herself. Her mouth was so drawn back it looked like she was Fat, and her skin made her look older.

After the funeral, i went to the cemetary to see her coffin get placed inside her resting place. it was then that i found out that the person who did this to my friend, used tactics known as the "hit and run". this information just made it worse. My Community is all in tears over this matter.

Hit and run huh? That stupid mother ****er, I hope they find him and give him the chair. Actually, even better, I hope you and your friends find him and beat him to a pulp with baseball bats, and then call the police to give him the chair. He deserves nothing better.
Your sig is beautiful Mysterious Adept. Beautiful and very sad.

[TheEnglishman]

Aquamarine, on Sep 3 2006, 12:56 PM, said:

Hit and run huh? That stupid mother ****er, I hope they find him and give him the chair. Actually, even better, I hope you and your friends find him and beat him to a pulp with baseball bats, and then call the police to give him the chair. He deserves nothing better.

Is that really the right way of thinking though? If you did that, what would be the difference between you and him? You shouldn't go down to his level.

[Aquamarine]

If I were to hit someone I wouldn't run! If I were to kill a person I would face the consequences for my actions, not run like a ****ing coward. People that kill for no good reason, but don't want to take the blame deserve only the worst.

[Split Infinity]

Would you, Aquamarine? Would you really? Fully aware that you'd likely receive life imprisonment?

[Aquamarine]

Yes. I would. Fully aware. And I'm not saying all this to act brave or something, but because I know I would. I wouldn't be able to live with myself after that, knowing I haven't received any kind of punishment. On the other hand, there are quite a few people who deserve to be killed, and the murderer shouldn't receive any punishment. But MA's friend doesn't seem to be that kind of person.

[Split Infinity]

Well, maybe not life imprisonment, so long as it was an accident. I myself would own up, simply because running away wouldn't help. I'd eventually be caught and slapped with an inflated sentence, and a life on the run would not be worth living anyway.

[Aquamarine]

Maybe not life imprisonment had he stopped the car and tried to help the poor girl. But after running away, like a poor little coward... he deserves worse than life imprisonment.

[Split Infinity]

Well yes, but I was referring to my own hypothetical situation.

[TheEnglishman]

Aquamarine, on Sep 3 2006, 01:22 PM, said:

Maybe not life imprisonment had he stopped the car and tried to help the poor girl. But after running away, like a poor little coward... he deserves worse than life imprisonment.

I agree but I don't think beating the guy up is the right way to go about it. Do you think that would be a good way to honour the memory of a friend with? As you said Aqua the guy wouldn't be able to live with himself afterwards. Perhaps that is enough.

[Aquamarine]

I get your point Me111. Maybe you're right, but I would want to make him suffer if he killed my friend. If he hadn't driven away I wouldn't think like this. But him running away just shows he doesn't really care for other's lifes.

[Split Infinity]

That's not necessarily true. Shock can do terrible things to a person's mind. How do you think he feels about what he did now?

[Aquamarine]

I don't know. And the thing is, I don't really care how he feels. I care more about the feelings of the friends and family of the person he killed.

[TheEnglishman]

Aquamarine, on Sep 3 2006, 02:39 PM, said:

I get your point Me111. Maybe you're right, but I would want to make him suffer if he killed my friend. If he hadn't driven away I wouldn't think like this. But him running away just shows he doesn't really care for other's lifes.

It's a difficult issue to think about. People need to themselves into control and not give way to their emotions in situations like these. But for all my talk of honouring memories and stuff, I would want the guy to suffer. But I think the way that he feels now should be enough for him to suffer. I hope they catch him and lock him away.
Even if he was to own up, he still deserves jail.

[Mysterious Adept]

Yes i want something to be done, but if they do find the person and do something terrible to him, wouldn't that bring on more pain to the family, especially her mother. My friend grew up not having a dad, he died before i can remember, so wouldn't this whole thing of catching him be like poison injected into the body?

I wish this wouldn't of happend, my life will never be the same...

[FlamingDuck]

Not to preach, but some of you need to read The Forged Coupon by Tolstoy. Go on.

Anyway, it shows that evil goes in a viscious circle, and the only people who can stop it are the ones that absorb it without passing it on. So you should fight the desire to go hunt him down and beat him down, for that would only make it worse. Not that you shouldn't try to track him down...Now I'm confused.

I am truly sorry for you. An incident like this happened in my area, and it was a tradgedy. I hope you can fifure out a way to live in her memory.

[Piers Watermaster]

My family lost a dear friend when he was hit by a car. In that case, the guy owned up, but was convicted of involuntary manslaughter and is serving his 10 years in prison.