[Golden Legacy]

I've my final ballroom project tomorrow, and to say that I'm nervous is an understatement. Some people can cope with it better than others, but when it comes to some big events like this, I tend to be incredibly anxious.

So how do you deal with it (nervousness, over anxiety, etc.)? Do you have stage fright?

[Golden Djinn13]

I just take a few deep breaths and I just imagine how good I will feel when the project is done and over with. Thats how I get through stuff like that. I got a speech I need to do in front of my class next week, but if I think about just getting the project done and over with, It helps.

Btw, Its better if your not the only person that has to do a presentation in front of everyone. :P

[Someone Else]

I deal with nervousness by not being nervous. I know that's not very helpful, but that's how I get it done.

[TheEnglishman]

I just get really worked up and hope everything goes well. I don't deal with nevousness very well. :P

[I'm Always BROKE]

Same with me, I can't handle nervousness it's one of the most terrible feelings I think you can have! How I deal with it? Well, I don't, because I dunno how I could deal with it... .__. Some serval months ago there was a parent's evening at my school and we all had to do some sorta presentation, in English (which isn't my first language). I first didn't felt really nervous, but on stage I was... It turned out better than I thought tough...

[Split Infinity]

I try to amuse myself to keep it off my mind. I might play a game, read a book, eat something, or talk with you guys. :P

Or you could try smoking a joint, it's all good.

[Hotshot101]

How I deal with it sometimes is to think I am just showing it to one person or a comfortable number of people. It kinda helps also if you don't think about it.

[Elliott]

Well, alcohol.

But for those times when it's not appropriate to drink, deep breaths are important. My driving instructor also said something about "removing the need". So I guess what that means is if something is going to make you nervous, then that's going to cause you to fail / lose, so try and enter into it with a calmer attitude by removing the need from the situation.

Easier said than done of course.

[Aquamarine]

When I used to have plays in theatres I was awfully nervous. Hundreds of people gathering to watch me act was very... unnerving. What I used to do is just sit and think about other things, taking deep breaths before it was my turn to go on stage. But whenever I went on stage I just forgot all about being nervous. I don't know why, but I was never nervous when acting in front of lots of people. I guess that doesn't happen to everybody though, so I can't really help.

[My Best Wishes]

I used to, and still do just listen to music. I just lay back and relax to music and if it's time to go or beforehand I just sing a song in my head, over and over...

[Golden Legacy]

It's odd. I had my dance performance today.

Throughout the whole day, I was anxious and so nervous that I was feeling nauseous. In fact, I couldn't eat anything for fear of throwing up. I was practically shaking the period before my performance.

But then it began.

And oddly enough. It flowed smoothly after the first step.

It's a difficult sensation to describe, but once you start your dance, act, etc., the biggest hurdle is just getting to the first part of it. The rest follows on its own.

[PDM]

I get quite nervous at times. What I do is shout "@%$! IT" and just do it. Usually I'm nervous for about 5 seconds then I straighten up.

[Aquamarine]

Good going, GL! So, you're like me, nervous before but enjoying yourself throughout. I'm guessing everything went well?

[Hotshot101]

Good job GL. Sometimes nervousness goes away when you actually are out there. You just feal it at first.

[Sea of Time]

But when you're nervous about something bad that's about to happen, it's not the same thing. I use music to deal with anxiety and nervousness, as I use it to deal with pretty much any other problems I have in my life.....and the number of those are growing by the day.

[TheEnglishman]

I remember when I had my french speaking test. I was terrified from the start of the day, but the feeling you have once you've done it is just great.

[Sea of Time]

We have a monologue coming up next year in Grade 12 that I'm already nervous about. We have to memorize a passage from a book, and read it in front of the entire Grade 12 body in the theatre.

[Saturos S.]

I used to be very nervous before speaking in public. But lately since I've getting a smart image through out the school. I'm more or less relaxed when giving a presentation and speak naturally. I guess you just have to believe in yourself. Though it's easier said then done.

[TheEnglishman]

I just lack confidence. I'm a pretty quiet guy (if you can believe that ;) ).

[Sea of Time]

I can believe it. You post pictures to portray your thoughts, and not words!

I'm normally pretty quiet, but I've been more outgoing in the last year. It's fun making coy comments in the middle of class, I don't mind being the centre of attention for a brief moment.

[Aquamarine]

I wonder how everybody at GL's school is treating him now? Are they different towards him? Are the ladies now eyeing him more than before? Answer my questions, Riad!

[Lemontime]

I deal with it by not doing dancing.
And I never plan to.
I'm not a dancer.
And if I'm nervous about something else. I just go ahead and do it. You'll laugh about it some day.

[Golden Legacy]

Aquamarine, on Jan 12 2007, 05:27 PM, said:

I wonder how everybody at GL's school is treating him now? Are they different towards him? Are the ladies now eyeing him more than before? Answer my questions, Riad!

lol.

Everyone thought the dance was really cute, especially the beginning where I walked up to my dance partner and asked her to dance, and the song of choice was also nicely chosen too, from what I hear.

And... well... I'm considering asking out my dance partner.


I'll leave it at that.

[Venus050727]

I'd think all of the things you could relax with. :)

[Lemontime]

Ooooooh, GL.
You two can do a different kind of dance.




The Salsa!

[Aquamarine]

She can do a lap dance for you, GL! Lucky you!

...

Hey, that's a kind of dance too you know!

[Golden Legacy]

Now THAT would make me incredibly nervous.

[Sea of Time]

If you take out the lap dance, I would seriously consider asking her out. And if there's anything I've learned with my very little experience, it's that waiting is not a good idea.

[Golden Legacy]

I hear ya. I was considering asking her out next week, after the final exams are over.

Now, to relate this with the topic... how do I overcome the nervousness of asking someone out?

[Aquamarine]

LOL, that sudden question was surprising. All I can say is that you should act normal and casual, but also show her that you think she is interesting and smart and pretty, but don't go over the top with that. I don't think this will be a lot of help, but at least I tried to aid you.

[Sea of Time]

And everybody likes movies. She can't say no to movies.

[Nemphtis]

I bite my lip like a mother****er.

[Aquamarine]

Sea_of_Time, on Jan 15 2007, 01:41 AM, said:

And everybody likes movies. She can't say no to movies.

I don't like movies films. I actually often find them to be a waste of time, and so I rarely watch them Though, there are of course a few I absolutely love...
Sorry for the off-topic-ness-ess.

[Lightning Star]

Heh, me too. I find them a waste of time as well.

I usually have to find a space alone where I can think to myself "okay, as long as you look confident, they'll think you're confident. When they think you're confident, the pressures off you, and then you can be confident." You've just gotta find the time to put on a mask that lets everyone know that you're out to get them, and you're not going to let anyone trample you. Once the crowd knows that, you're set.

I guess the hard part is swallowing the fear. Sometimes I look confident, but my hands will shake like mad. I just find something to hold onto, or grip them and then it'll stop. Just think of something you're passionate, and pretend like you've got a point to make.

[Twit]

Right on the line before a cross country meet, Im always nervous~

Right before getting on stage to solo a song, Im nervous~

But to cope, I dont think about anything but what Im doing right now, and how Im going to overcome it~

And it doesnt matter what people think~ The moment you stop thinking about what others think, and do what you believe you want to do, you wont be nervous anymore ;D~~~

EDIT:~

AND I didnt see this page~~

Ummumumm If you are afraid to ask her out, then maybe you just arent ready to ask her ;D If you think you can do it, then do it and get it over with~ You wont die cause that person says no~

Only 5% of young love lasts~~

[Sea of Time]

That's easier said than done for a lot of people. Speaking from experience, it's not easy to forget about what everyone else thinks. Everyone always says that's what you have to do but up until recently I just wasn't able to think that way.

[Twit]

I guess it just happens as you mature, and grow older. I believe taht as soon as you respect yourself as who you are, youll be fine and not nervous~

Its worked for me :D

[Sea of Time]

Same for me, and I guess you're right in that sense. But when you're young and self-aware, it's just plain hard to do.

[Luna]

When nervous, maybe you can try to find fun in the situation? Or see it objectively?

Like getting a shot o: Oh **** it hurts but it wont last more than 5 seconds and it's good for you?

[Sea of Time]

Oh yeah, I used to get really nervous over shots. But you're right, if you look at things in a different light, that certainly helps.

[Aquamarine]

So GL, did you ask the lucky girl out yet?

[Golden Legacy]

Does going Ice Skating with her count?

[Sea of Time]

If it wasn't related in any way to the dancing thing, then yes. Ice skating...now that's original!

[Golden Legacy]

Well, of course.

Now I have a week and a half to learn how to skate.

[Sea of Time]

XD Good luck with that. Then again, maybe she'll fall for you more if you don't know how to skate. Pity works pretty well.

[Hotshot101]

Love can work strangely. I don't ussually count anything out. Good luck with learning how to skate.

[Aquamarine]

Don't forget to catch her if she falls! Just be careful where you put your hands...

[Sea of Time]

I thought you meant fall backwards. And why did we have to go there? =P Obviously this is very serious for GL.

[Aquamarine]

Hey, I'm just giving him a little friendly advice! Anyhow... Although you may think this isn't true, girls love it when you notice their body. Maybe this one is different, but they like it if you tell them they have a great... body. They might go all "Oy, stop looking down there!" but they still love that kind of attention.

[Golden Legacy]

Interesting suggestions from you guys... no doubt, you've probably all have experienced this more than I have, hehe.

[Sea of Time]

Pfft, I may talk about it a lot, but I've only had a girlfriend for.....seven months now. The only tip I really have is: Don't listen to Aqua's suggestions, listen to mine.

[Aquamarine]

You're going to eat those words, SoT! I have an idea! GL, how about you try the suggestion from both of us, and all of them, in order to see who is better at this stuff. Never mind if she doesn't want to be with you after that, the important thing is we will know who is right. ;)

[Sea of Time]

Aquamarine, on Jan 22 2007, 12:24 PM, said:

Hey, I'm just giving him a little friendly advice! Anyhow... Although you may think this isn't true, girls love it when you notice their body. Maybe this one is different, but they like it if you tell them they have a great... body. They might go all "Oy, stop looking down there!" but they still love that kind of attention.

Okay, maybe this suggestion wasn't so bad. You had the right idea. But don't say stuff like, "O-M-G, you are so hott." Just say like, "You look nice." or something like that. And don't stare, that's not cool. XD

[Twit]

Ohh~ While on this nervousness topic~

How does one ask someone else to a dance? A formal dance~ DDD:~

[Hotshot101]

For you question Twit. Hardest thing is actually getting to where you can talk to her or him. Just believe in yourself. Think that you can do it. Its all it takes. For me when I get to actually saying the words its easy and I don't feel nervous about it. Heck I don't have a girl friend myself, but I do have a hard time talking to people about buisness and when you a patrol leader for a boy scout troop, thats one thing you gotta face. So really just believe in yourself and choose your words carefully.

[Sea of Time]

Twit, on Jan 23 2007, 06:26 PM, said:

Ohh~ While on this nervousness topic~

How does one ask someone else to a dance? A formal dance~ DDD:~

"Hey......*response*......I was wondering, I have this dance on [insert date here]. Would you like to come with me?............*response (hopefully yes)*...........Okay, I'll pick you up around [insert time here]........*response*.........See you later!"

[Saturos S.]

When I get nervous around girls I really like. I start making jokes, often stupid ones bit it sort of helps. All though there not meant to help. Because if they laugh or smile back, well, it gives you a sort of confidence.

Jokes are a great way to start a conversation or to break a silence.

[λφη]

Nervousness: I use a method I picked up from a book (yeah, sounds weird, but works for me) And thats to envision nothing but blackness, and a single flame. Feed your emotions into the flame, allowing it to burn away all feeling, allowing nothing but calm and instinct. I use this method when playing guitar for jazz band on an improv solo: Basically, I calmly factor the key were playing in, tempo, and possible scales I could use as well as the general theme, and then play.

[Yuki]

I don't bite my nails.

I get hyper. I try to psyche myself out of being nervous. I get invigorated and I get a bit out of control. Meeh.