Getting Over It... howto
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Posted 05 August 2007 - 10:44 AM
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Posted 05 August 2007 - 10:46 AM
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Posted 05 August 2007 - 11:09 AM
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Posted 05 August 2007 - 11:12 AM
How long were you and her together?
Did she ever do anything annoying in your relationship?
Did you break it up or did she?
Sadly, sometimes the best way to get over a person is to get angry at them. I know it sounds shallow, but my ex had to send me an e-mail basically saying (Quite rudely) that he didn't think we should keep talking to each other and for me to stop waiting in hopes that he'd take me back. It really ticked me off to the point where my anger took over any feelings for him. A few days later I realized he only wanted me to move on, so I wasn't angry any more, but I also didn't have any feelings for him either. He just happened to break up with his girlfriend and we began to talk to each other again, but only as friends.
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Posted 05 August 2007 - 11:13 AM
http://www.youtube.c...hqmJh77e04&NR=1
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Posted 05 August 2007 - 11:24 AM
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Posted 05 August 2007 - 12:44 PM
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Posted 05 August 2007 - 01:05 PM
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Posted 05 August 2007 - 01:36 PM
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Posted 05 August 2007 - 03:31 PM
But MP, though I don't have any advice for getting over it, all I can say is wait.
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Posted 05 August 2007 - 03:59 PM
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Posted 05 August 2007 - 10:03 PM
Another thing I did (which I dunno if guys do this, but girls do it a lot) was get rid of the things that reminded me of him. I held onto his picture for so long, and I think once I finally got rid of it, I started to heal up better. I think if I still had it, I would look at it, and I would begin to feel the way I used to feel when we were together.
There's a song that goes "Never want to hear you tell yourself that these feelings are in the past. No it doesn't mean they're off the shelf, because pain was built to last" And it's true. Love can be broken so easily, but pain is foolproof, unfortunately. Sometimes time is the best way to heal over.
But one thing is for certain, NEVER EVER EVER get a rebound. You end up in a relationship you're not happy with, and you end up hurting someone else once it falls apart (and that would be within a few days too). Just trust me on this one. I did that with one of my friends and I ended up hurting him really bad.
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Posted 06 August 2007 - 01:47 AM
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Posted 06 August 2007 - 02:13 AM
You know what? I just realised why I like this forum so much, and probably why people always seem to come back.
It's not like other game related forums that are full of 12 year olds who just spam, the members here can be serious when it calls for it, and immature little kids when we're just goofing off in th common room.
It's the fact that the members here are more mature for their ages than on a lot of other forums.
#17
Posted 06 August 2007 - 02:42 AM
Sorry, now back to the topic ^^;
Yeah, talking about relationship issues helps; I don't know what I would do if I couldn't talk to my friends about it. It's also why I'm such a journal whore. I'm not sure, but I think it's scientifically proven that writing about your problems helps relieve some of the stress. I've filled up many journals and I blog A LOT. I think it also helps you figure out the facts and look at the situation from different perspectives. So yeah, talking about it can also help you heal, maybe not quicker, but it definitely helps.
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Posted 06 August 2007 - 02:49 AM
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Posted 06 August 2007 - 03:01 AM
Talking to other people helps, but I don't feel like there's anyone I could talk to face to face about any of it. I almost feel like I'm the only one with problems, though I know other people I know have problems. I just feel like I'd be judged. And that's another thing I like about these forums. As long as you don't act like a noob, people don't judge you.
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Posted 06 August 2007 - 03:15 AM
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Posted 06 August 2007 - 03:54 AM
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Posted 06 August 2007 - 05:49 AM
Being just friends is ***, you're going to have all these awkward moments and eventually just stop talking to each other. Just start dating another girl and you'll get over it so fast. Cause you'll start laughing when shes all jealous over this new girl, and secondly this new girl will be a lot better. :D
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Posted 06 August 2007 - 12:46 PM
pHantOm, on Aug 6 2007, 04:49 AM, said:
Being just friends is ***, you're going to have all these awkward moments and eventually just stop talking to each other. Just start dating another girl and you'll get over it so fast. Cause you'll start laughing when shes all jealous over this new girl, and secondly this new girl will be a lot better. :D
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Posted 06 August 2007 - 02:09 PM
Because you're only getting another girl to get over your last one, and you won't have feelings for the new one. Then you end up breaking
Bad advice, in my opinion.
(Edit: fix-ed)
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Posted 06 August 2007 - 06:26 PM
I know nothing about your new gf, but I think there could be some problems later if you hooked up with this girl too fast to avoid the pain of being alone. Of course these are all just "ifs" based simply off of the possibility that you rebounded. :P
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Posted 07 August 2007 - 01:45 AM
I waited a couple months after breaking up with Fran.
And thats not true lightningstar, After I dated Fran for a year and 4 months, we broke up. I waited a little while then started dating Kasey. You find out what its like to be with a different girl, and often times one not so stubburn and b*tchy. But thats just my experience.
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Posted 07 August 2007 - 01:48 AM
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Posted 07 August 2007 - 04:18 AM
...take it from my experience ^^;
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Posted 07 August 2007 - 05:45 AM
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Posted 07 August 2007 - 10:40 AM
Though in seriousness... do you really want to date many girls for the fun of it, but never getting to know anybody or finding anyone you like?
But then, this is from the guy who hasn't found ANYBODY he actually likes or ever dated thus far. Maybe what aqua says is best. I don't know it'd make mindpatch feel better though.
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Posted 07 August 2007 - 12:05 PM
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Posted 07 August 2007 - 10:43 PM
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Posted 07 August 2007 - 11:38 PM
Wind Dude, on Aug 7 2007, 09:43 PM, said:
Same, but vice versa with the boy/girl thing :P
I guess the only problem now is that yes, there are cute guys out there and there are some that I probably would really like. But to get into a situation where we would open up and become close just doesn't seem to happen to me.
Take tonight, for example. A bunch of my friends invited me and their friends to the park, so there were a lot of people. The park is open until 10, and the "party" lasted till 9:30. It was the perfect set up to fall in love, because the sky was clear, the stars were shining, there was music in the background. But everyone was too chicken to dance with each other (didn't help that some parents were chaperoning) and the guys generally stuck together in their group, and the girls did the same. I tried to get to know one guy, but he just was too quiet, and all the other guys were my b-tard friends that are cool, but I would never date in a thousand year (and the other guy was my friend's ex boyfriend, so I didn't even go there XD).
Falling back in love is harder than it seems. I love Dane Cook's metaphor about relationships :
"When you're not in love, it's like walking by a party, that everyone is invited to but you, in the rain. When you're in love, you're like 'this party sucks, get me out of here! where's my coat?! oh my god, someone **** on the coats!"
it's just another one of those things that you can't live with, and can't live without.
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Posted 08 August 2007 - 05:28 AM
Wind Dude, on Aug 7 2007, 06:40 PM, said:
Yes.
At least for now I do. I'm still young and not ready for a committed relationship. To tell the truth, all I really want to do is have fun. I want to make the most of being 18, and I'll start having "real" girlfriends when I'm a couple of years older, when I've matured a little.
Perhaps this is what Mindpatch should do? Go out one evening and have a one night stand, maybe you'll feel better. Seriously.
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Posted 08 August 2007 - 05:42 AM
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Posted 08 August 2007 - 01:38 PM
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Posted 08 August 2007 - 02:15 PM
Aquamarine, on Aug 8 2007, 04:28 AM, said:
At least for now I do. I'm still young and not ready for a committed relationship. To tell the truth, all I really want to do is have fun. I want to make the most of being 18, and I'll start having "real" girlfriends when I'm a couple of years older, when I've matured a little.
Perhaps this is what Mindpatch should do? Go out one evening and have a one night stand, maybe you'll feel better. Seriously.
Wow I'm glad I'm not one of your victims.
shaaaaaa-loooooow.
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Posted 09 August 2007 - 12:50 AM
Aquamarine, on Aug 8 2007, 05:28 AM, said:
At least for now I do. I'm still young and not ready for a committed relationship. To tell the truth, all I really want to do is have fun. I want to make the most of being 18, and I'll start having "real" girlfriends when I'm a couple of years older, when I've matured a little.
Perhaps this is what Mindpatch should do? Go out one evening and have a one night stand, maybe you'll feel better. Seriously.
I'm pretty sure every (sober) girl in the universe is wanting a long-term relationship from somebody. So you're saying you're content with being that guy she'll forget the second she finds someone better? I personally like having someone who's not just a girlfriend, but also just a friend. When you find someone who is fine with having it both ways, then you've found a winner.
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Posted 09 August 2007 - 08:19 AM
Sea of Time, on Aug 9 2007, 08:50 AM, said:
Hm... As I said, yes I am content with that. For now. Seeing as that girl will also be forgotten when I find another/get bored of her. And not all girls want a long-term relationship actually. Some just want an adventure, like I do.
Having said that, I'm not one of those guys who gets hooked up with every girl possible. Actually, I haven't had a girlfriend in about two years, because I don't want to have one AND I haven't met one I would be glad to be with. There were a few I could have been with, but they just weren't for me.
And I've never taken advantage of a drunk girl.
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Posted 09 August 2007 - 10:26 PM
Aquamarine, on Aug 9 2007, 08:19 AM, said:
What I meant was barely any girls want an adventure their whole life. But if that's how you see it, that's your opinion.
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Posted 10 August 2007 - 04:01 AM
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Posted 23 August 2007 - 02:22 PM
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Posted 23 August 2007 - 03:29 PM
Gardna, on Aug 23 2007, 10:22 PM, said:
Hey, you're a human being and as such have freedom of speech, do you not?
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Posted 23 August 2007 - 03:47 PM
And how DARE you go to Croatia! Serbs and Croats hate each other... Though I've no special grudges against them.