Help...
#1
Posted 27 October 2007 - 11:37 PM
My ex calls me last night out of the clear blue after two and a half months of not talking. (We dated for about 2 years and went through a tough break up, fyi) He apparently realizes that he's not going to find anyone like me and wants to get back together after we sort some things out. So we're currently in the "talking" status.
But here's the thing: I'm having a bizarre feeling of deja vu. Why? Because he did the same thing LAST year. He broke up with me and a week later he's on the phone begging me to take him back.
The one thing that has thrown me for a loop is when he said that he wants to put aside all the physical s*** that got in the way of things last time. Now, when a guy tells me that he is going to resist the urge to ravage me, there's something going on. Either it's good, or it's bad. :P
I need the male opinion here. What is your interpretation of the predicament?
#2
Posted 27 October 2007 - 11:47 PM
#3
Posted 28 October 2007 - 04:29 AM
Dump his ass. He's just using you.
#4
Posted 28 October 2007 - 05:48 AM
#6
Posted 28 October 2007 - 02:22 PM
#7
Posted 28 October 2007 - 02:28 PM
Anyways, you could also prevent him from playing you by playing him instead. Atleast, if you want to aswell. Have a date with him (make sure that HE pays mind you! =p) and dump him afterwards but I doubt that your the type of person doing that.
#8
Posted 28 October 2007 - 04:40 PM
I guess I should rephrase things a little. He said he still is very much physically attracted to me, but is going to put those feelings aside until we're in a more committed point in the relationship because he doesn't want it to f*** up the relationship. They really did get in the way.
So I'm thinking that I'm going to continue talking to him so that:
A. I can find out what is going on in his head
B. So I can play him along :huh:
C. And only because I have nothing better to do at this current time
My best friend put it quite nicely: it's going to take more than phone calls to win me back.
How does this sound? I really hope I'm not setting myself up for doom....
#9
Posted 28 October 2007 - 05:27 PM
But even by my standards that's too cruel.
#11
Posted 28 October 2007 - 11:09 PM
And because of that, I could never play him by your standards, Earth Dude. (Not that it wouldn't be fun, in a sinister kind of way) Plus, we're currently geographically challenged.
#12
Posted 28 October 2007 - 11:39 PM
As long as he wasn't abusive, manipulative and controlling I say go ahead... but just with caution. Always caution.
I repeat, try again.
#13
Posted 29 October 2007 - 12:18 AM
#14
Posted 29 October 2007 - 11:43 AM
.eugine, on Oct 29 2007, 06:39 AM, said:
As long as he wasn't abusive, manipulative and controlling I say go ahead... but just with caution. Always caution.
I repeat, try again.
Never give up on true love? Listen to this: A female friend of mine was for about a year and a half with this guy who would often hit and torture her. She would come to school and show me her injuries on different parts of her body. I told her to dump the son of a *****, and after a lot of contemplating that is exactly what she did. However, a few moths ago they got back together again because she loves him, and apparently he loves her. I've given up on trying to teach her some sense. So tell me: Is this true love because they both love each other?
Wild Fox, I er... Know these kinds of guys pretty well, and I say suggest you just forget about him. But as I said earlier, it's your choice. You might be thankful that you've given him another chance if you do so.
#15
Posted 29 October 2007 - 11:49 AM
#16
Posted 29 October 2007 - 06:00 PM
#17
Posted 29 October 2007 - 09:47 PM
Example, if you're going to get naked, for the love of god, keep it to being topless! Taking your panties off is an extremely bad idea. Trust me on this, I know from one of my female friends. I won't go into specifics because she'd kill me and it's not forum friendly...
#18
Posted 30 October 2007 - 03:39 AM
#20
Posted 30 October 2007 - 11:40 PM
Wind Dude, on Oct 29 2007, 08:47 PM, said:
Example, if you're going to get naked, for the love of god, keep it to being topless! Taking your panties off is an extremely bad idea. Trust me on this, I know from one of my female friends. I won't go into specifics because she'd kill me and it's not forum friendly...
1. I've had numerous late-night, chocolate-induced girl talks with my trusted female friends and LET ME TELL YOU, some serious rules have been laid down.
2. If you are referring to what I think you're referring to, yes it is a bad idea because I've probably been there :P and no it's definitely not forum friendly.
Plus, I appreciate all the feedback. It makes the decision-making process a lot easier when I have random, unbiased people giving me their opinion. :huh:
#21
Posted 31 October 2007 - 12:07 AM