Toasty, on Aug 20 2010, 10:43 PM, said:
Please state where I said I fell in love with this Japanese girl. She's cute, I'll admit, but I'm not interested.
As our differing opinions on relationships, yours stems from a secular viewpoint, and mine stems from a religious one. Let me put this in simple terms: I trust that if I have faith in God, I'll die with a smile on my face some day. Whether I'm married or not doesn't really matter.
Besides that, I know that if I got into a relationship right now, it'd just end quickly and on bad terms. I've got a bad habit of projecting the image of the perfect girlfriend/wife on whoever seems to catch my eye.
That said, I figured out quite some time ago what my problem is, and I've been able to pretty much get rid of it. Even so, I'm still attracted to that same girl, and I still have yet to put my finger on exactly why I can't get her out of mind. I simply don't have a specific reason for why I love her.
Anyway, back to the topic at hand, I'm pretty sure this Japanese girl is in love with me, but I'm the kind of guy who hates making girls cry. The problem is that I don't know how to let her down gently.
Toasty, on May 23 2010, 03:37 PM, said:
Girl B pestered me continuously for days until I finally confirmed her suspicion that I was in love with Girl A.
I didn't say you said you loved the Jap chick, just the one who you weren't even dating, or sure if you WANTED to date. That's not love brah.
Why do you have to be so close minded. And ignore every point I ever have that makes you look like a fool. Eating meat on a friday used to be a hell-worth trespass, no? I'll answer for you, becasue we all know you won't answer any direct question I ever give you.
YES. Is it still a hell-worthy trespass?
NO. Times change. I guarantee at some point in life, if not frequently, you have eaten meat on a Friday. Times change. And in this day and age, pre-marital sex isn't what it used to be. Thousands of years ago, you were damned to hell for such an act, but I would like to see you, with a straight face, and a clean conscience, tell me that everybody in this day and age that has had pre-marital sex is going, and has gone, straight to Inferno. Nope, don't buy that for a minute.
And see, see, see, THAT'S EXACTLY IT.
It'll just end quickly and on bad terms. YOU DON'T KNOW THAT. What if she (not any of the current girls, but any she) truly is the one for you, like undeniably - when you go to heaven, or hell, god, or satan will tell you that this girl and you were meant together. In my hypothetical situation, Toasty, you can't argue it -- this girl is
THE ONE for you. Well you just threw away the perfect relationship, the one that would bring you happiness forever, because of that stupid fucking mentality that each and every relationship has to be touched by the hand of god himself before it can continue. Please, ignore your faith for a second. I'm not saying to argue, but ignore your faith, and think about what I just side. Really analyze it. Now, try and tell me I'm wrong, or that "no chris, everything will just work into place they way it should."
Here's a perfect joke for this situation. A mans boat begins to sink, and he's unable to swim and starts to drown. A man in a canoe paddles by and asks the sinking man if he needs help. The sinking man said "no, God will help me." The man in the canoe continued on his way. A few moments later, a man in a boat drives by and asks the drowning man if he would like some assistance. The man once again refuses, stating again that "god will save me." The man in the boat drives away. Moments later again, a helicopter flies overhead, and the pilot asks the drowning man if he would like any help. "No," the man says, "god will protect me from harm." The pilot asks again, and a third time, before finally giving up and flying away. Seconds later the man drowns and goes up to Heaven. Upon arriving, the man asks God why he never sent help to save him. God responds "I did you fucking idiot, I sent a canoe, a boat and a helicopter." God won't set up the perfect relationship for you, nor will he come down from Heaven and pick you out of a river when you're drowning with two fingers.. you have to take chances and believe that he'll guice you down the right path.
IF you don't get the above, I'm gonna slit your fucking throat.
And if you've figured out the problem, then you aren't doing a very good job at fixing it. You've been failing (for lack of a better term, really not trying to be insulting) the same way you have this whole time. And dont make me do the crying smiley at you being in love with this girl. Thats a joke dude, and you should know better. You don't know why you love her? You guys never dated? And you were on the fence if you should date her or another chick? Thats not love dude. Thats an infatuation, a crush, puppy dog love, whatever you fuck you wanna call it. But its not love. Love is when you need that person, when you cant live without them, when youd actually stand in front a bullet, so they wouldnt take it. Like fuck you think that way about this chick. And dont flatter yourself dude, I highly doubt this
15year old Jap girl who never went out on a date with you, who you never showed much of an interest in, and who youve known for 3? months, is truly in love with you. Once again, its an infatuation, nothing more. The thing here is, is that, at your age, you should be fully aware of the differance between the two, she not so much. But at 18, you should know what true love, and a high school crush are.
Pause.