[Lemontime]

I had something witty and cool to say but all these fucking walls of text just made me forget them. So here's a cat.
http://physics.unl.edu/dept/directories/images/gradpics/Cat.jpg

[Matdamon]

Toasty, on Aug 22 2010, 04:37 PM, said:

You believe that a person has to bear the full responsibility for finding their soul mate, because no one will do it for them. I believe that if I have faith in God, he'll lead me to where I need to go. That includes leading me to the person he wants me to spend my life with, and honestly, I think he knows better than I do who would be best for me.

Maybe he already has. This could be your canoe or even your boat and you'll never know. If you like someone give it a shot, your gonna have to eventually, Gods not gonna write you a note telling you how to find the girl of your dreams.

[Mallick]

Toasty, on Aug 22 2010, 12:07 AM, said:

@Skidz: Your basic concepts don't apply, because I refuse to treat dating the same way most other people treat it. By your knowledge, I'd have to snatch up every opportunity I get to date a girl, because for all I know the person I pass up could've been the person that would've been best for me. But the way I see it, I don't have to worry about that. I don't have to worry about it because I know that I won't pass up the girl I'm meant to be with. And that's not because of any prior knowledge that I might have about what a relationship with them would be like. If I'm actually meant to marry someone, then I'll end up marrying the person who's best for me because I have faith that God will make it so.

He's not telling you to snatch up the chance to date any girl. He's telling you to pursue the feelings you've had for a nice girl for a long time. You have told us multiple times that you LOVE this girl. Why shouldn't you take the plunge? She may very well BE the one. What if, down the road, you have the same mentality as you do now and you DO end up passing the chance to have a meaningful relationship with your soul mate? It's a double-edged sword.

This so called God of yours cannot do everything. Isn't there some silly modern story about this? Roughly...

A man is walking on the beach when suddenly God descends upon him. Thinking quickly, he drops to his knees and assumes the prayer position.

"God," he pleads, "my wife and children are starving and I'm already working two jobs. I have done my best to be a good man for all of my life; may I please when the lottery?"

"Yes," God responded solemnly, "it shall be done."

Months later, the very same man is walking on the very same beach. Once again, God descends from the heavens before him.

"God." He said coldly, much less respectful this time than the first. "I prayed to you asking to win the lottery, you told me I will but it never happened." God was not angered by this cold welcoming, but instead chuckled and said,

"My son, you cannot win the lottery if you don't buy a ticket."

This so called God of yours can't thrust you into a relationship with your soul mate. You need to buy the ticket, you son of a bitch. You may not win the lottery but at least you'll know she was not the one. I've not studied the bible since elementary school, but I don't recall there being anything in that book about connecting with people out of wedlock, or without the intention of marriage.

[ThankMeLater]

Toasty, on Aug 22 2010, 01:07 AM, said:

I'm well aware that the odds are against me. My sister seems to be on of the lucky few (not married yet, but it's practically inevitable). Even so, that's the outcome I desire. Doesn't mean that'll happen, but I still want it.
Anyway, I realize that God helps those who help themselves, but I've been helping myself for a while now, and I think I'm being told to step back for now. So that's what I'm doing.
@Skidz: Your basic concepts don't apply, because I refuse to treat dating the same way most other people treat it. By your knowledge, I'd have to snatch up every opportunity I get to date a girl, because for all I know the person I pass up could've been the person that would've been best for me. But the way I see it, I don't have to worry about that. I don't have to worry about it because I know that I won't pass up the girl I'm meant to be with. And that's not because of any prior knowledge that I might have about what a relationship with them would be like. If I'm actually meant to marry someone, then I'll end up marrying the person who's best for me because I have faith that God will make it so.

You believe that a person has to bear the full responsibility for finding their soul mate, because no one will do it for them. I believe that if I have faith in God, he'll lead me to where I need to go. That includes leading me to the person he wants me to spend my life with, and honestly, I think he knows better than I do who would be best for me.

I gotta lay off, the way ya'll hate me like I'm adolf, and this nigga can't see shit...

http://img826.imageshack.us/img826/7089/wayne.jpg

... Ray Charles.

And Matty what it do.. Caael we up.. PDM I see you (you gave the same story, let's see if he thinks it's irrelevant too)..

[Mallick]

ThankMeLater, on Aug 22 2010, 09:00 AM, said:

I see you PDM (you gave the same story, let's see if he thinks it's irrelevant too)..

Eh, I must have missed that post. My bad.

[ThankMeLater]

naw, no hate, was just wondering if he'd call your story bullshit like did mine. apparently, to him, god will just pick him out of the water (or in your story, just hand him the money).

[Neo]

I'm agnostic myself, but for the sake of conversation I'm going to follow in your footsteps and talk about God being the one to guide you to the right girl.

Is it not He who created us, his children, to live our lives by his idea but by our own strengths? To believe that God is going to guide you to evyer single correct answer is complete ignorance. We may be his children, but we must learn for ourselves: grow by his guidance but learn from our mistakes and mishaps.

It is you who must take on the adventure, enjoy it even, and find the girl you love in the end. It may go wrong several times, you might get hurt and it may take time, but if it is Gods will, you will find that one girl in the end. Just don't expect him to point you in the right direction on every single crossroad. Make mistakes, and learn from them.

[Matdamon]

Neo, on Aug 23 2010, 08:34 PM, said:

I'm agnostic myself, but for the sake of conversation I'm going to follow in your footsteps and talk about God being the one to guide you to the right girl.

Is it not He who created us, his children, to live our lives by his idea but by our own strengths? To believe that God is going to guide you to evyer single correct answer is complete ignorance. We may be his children, but we must learn for ourselves: grow by his guidance but learn from our mistakes and mishaps.

It is you who must take on the adventure, enjoy it even, and find the girl you love in the end. It may go wrong several times, you might get hurt and it may take time, but if it is Gods will, you will find that one girl in the end. Just don't expect him to point you in the right direction on every single crossroad. Make mistakes, and learn from them.

Well put sir, that rings true in my ears.

[Zeypher]

Crossing my fingers for at least one good looking girl in any of my classes today.

[Gio]

Neo, on Aug 23 2010, 06:04 AM, said:

I'm agnostic myself, but for the sake of conversation I'm going to follow in your footsteps and talk about God being the one to guide you to the right girl.

Is it not He who created us, his children, to live our lives by his idea but by our own strengths? To believe that God is going to guide you to evyer single correct answer is complete ignorance. We may be his children, but we must learn for ourselves: grow by his guidance but learn from our mistakes and mishaps.

It is you who must take on the adventure, enjoy it even, and find the girl you love in the end. It may go wrong several times, you might get hurt and it may take time, but if it is Gods will, you will find that one girl in the end. Just don't expect him to point you in the right direction on every single crossroad. Make mistakes, and learn from them.

Very well put.

So I know I am not around much but I still want to post something to get some things off my chest. I am dating this girl now. I have always had some pent up feelings for her since we were in high school. Never really acted on them, mainly because she got into the whole drinking and partying thing way before i did or even thought it was alright, so at first i tried to get her out of that crowd and help her out and she would have none of it so i disowned her, and now that I am older i understand it was because i cared for her so much and couldn't watch her do those things.

Well all that was in high school, so now I am older and both me and her are at a party. Now we have been being really friendly and hanging out with each other quite a bit at this point. I have been drinking a bit but I am still far from being drunk, maybe a little buzzed.
Well I remember that me and her had a conversation about her back massages and how great they are and how she had promised me one. Well that being said she gave me the massage and when i rolled over, I just went for the kiss, and we started making out. well one thing led to another, and well.......you know.

Anyway, Everything has been great, and I haven't done anything wrong, and she hasn't either. But I am getting this horrible horrible feeling that something is weird. I have no clue why. I mean she has had a pretty sketchy past and all, and I am fine with that. it doesnt bother me, but I can't help thinking that the idea that it might bother me, is bothering her.
just tell me what you think. I don't feel like writing a massive wall of text so I will just explain as i get opinions.

[Zeypher]

Maybe the feeling you're getting is something surreal - like you still can't quite believe that you're with her after liking her for so long?

I have a predicament of my own now. There's this super cute girl at my college but I don't know how to break the ice with her (I have a problem with this with every girl and just new people in general). When I left today she was sitting towards the entrance and she totally made eye contact with me as I was walking down. While cursing at myself in my head for not saying something to her, I looked back as I opened the doors to go outside and she was looking over at me.

So, how do I break the ice next time I see her? I just need good conversation starters or something.

[Gio]

Well I am fucked. I definitely lost this one. i'll explain later.

[Wild Fox]

@Zeypher Make some comment on the situation. For example, my old roommate was standing in line at the coffee shop and the guy behind her asked her for her opinion on the monthly coffee special (as in, if she's tried it, does it sound good, he can't decide, blah blah etc...) He got her number and they went out on a date.

Or just introduce yourself. Tell her your name, ask her about her classes. Ask and ye shall receive. My bf wanted to ask me out. He asked me out and I said yes. If you are just nice and friendly I'm sure you'll get good results :(

[Gio]

Well I got told that she doesn't have the same feelings as when we started dating, and that she really does like me and care for me, and if she could change it she would, but that she can't control her heart, and that she still wants to be friends.
Now i don't know if i can be friends. I have known her forever. I mean i could if she never dated anyone else.,but if she did I don't know how I would react.

Anyway I am lost.

[Zeypher]

You probably won't be able to stay "friends" with her after the breakup. Something similar to that happened to me recently - I was with a girl for nine months and she said the same "I don't have the same feelings for you as I used to" (on Valentine's Day, no less). A week later she got with another guy. It took a couple months for us to start talking again.

So there's my experiences. It's probably best to just try and let it go before you do anything stupid.

[Toasty]

Mallick, on Aug 22 2010, 05:11 AM, said:

He's not telling you to snatch up the chance to date any girl. He's telling you to pursue the feelings you've had for a nice girl for a long time. You have told us multiple times that you LOVE this girl. Why shouldn't you take the plunge? She may very well BE the one. What if, down the road, you have the same mentality as you do now and you DO end up passing the chance to have a meaningful relationship with your soul mate? It's a double-edged sword.

This so called God of yours cannot do everything. Isn't there some silly modern story about this? Roughly...

A man is walking on the beach when suddenly God descends upon him. Thinking quickly, he drops to his knees and assumes the prayer position.

"God," he pleads, "my wife and children are starving and I'm already working two jobs. I have done my best to be a good man for all of my life; may I please when the lottery?"

"Yes," God responded solemnly, "it shall be done."

Months later, the very same man is walking on the very same beach. Once again, God descends from the heavens before him.

"God." He said coldly, much less respectful this time than the first. "I prayed to you asking to win the lottery, you told me I will but it never happened." God was not angered by this cold welcoming, but instead chuckled and said,

"My son, you cannot win the lottery if you don't buy a ticket."

This so called God of yours can't thrust you into a relationship with your soul mate. You need to buy the ticket, you son of a bitch. You may not win the lottery but at least you'll know she was not the one. I've not studied the bible since elementary school, but I don't recall there being anything in that book about connecting with people out of wedlock, or without the intention of marriage.

I guess I should just be plain and blunt this time:

I still have feelings for this girl, and I want to date her, but I'm not ready for a relationship yet at this point. **** needs to be sorted out and stuff.

I have every intention of trying to go somewhere with this (unless something happens in the mean time), but for me to go after her now would be a stupid idea because I'm not prepared for it yet and I know that.


Skidz, what I interpreted your advice as was this, basically: "Go after her now or you'll never get her"

To which I basically responded with: "I can't yet, because I'm not ready. If I miss my chance, then so be it. I'll have to live with that."


In summary, I've been praying for a while now, and I've had some of those prayers answered. Friends have been helping me with my problems, and I've been helping them with theirs. I have every intention of getting myself in order as quickly as possible, but haste makes waste, so I'm trying to be careful.


Does that answer satisfy you Skidz?

[Mallick]

It's a start.

[Gio]

Zeypher, on Aug 24 2010, 08:47 PM, said:

You probably won't be able to stay "friends" with her after the breakup. Something similar to that happened to me recently - I was with a girl for nine months and she said the same "I don't have the same feelings for you as I used to" (on Valentine's Day, no less). A week later she got with another guy. It took a couple months for us to start talking again.

So there's my experiences. It's probably best to just try and let it go before you do anything stupid.

I have been friends with this girl longer than I can even remember, and the break up wasn't an angry one. I mean I am extremely sad and confused, but I am not mad at her. More so at the situation I guess.
I just miss her and want her back. But It will take time we shall see.

[Caael]

Toasty, even if you're not ready, why not just try and go for it and see where it goes- I wasn't 'ready' when I asked my current gf out and for a day or two I was nervous and then I discovered it's just what I wanted.

'Not being ready' isn't an excuse- it's just your subconcious making up excuses to convince yourself that you dont want to be in a relationship and I KNOW it is- it's the exact situation I was in. You over analyse every situation, you read too much into things in order to try and push yourself away from the connection you've formed. And I know that you will try and list physical things as well- having a relationship does not stop you from doing stuff. They do not take up as much time as you think they do. The only 'barrier' you have is getting over your fears and worries.

tl;dr Get over yourself and take a risk for once


In other news, gf and I have been reunited and I am so immensely glad to have her back. Caael with emotion; I know. But to be honest, 5 weeks is long enough for somebody to be away.

[Toasty]

No, believe me when I say it Caael, I'm not ready for a relationship at this point in my life. I want one, but I'm just not ready, and it has nothing to do with school or prior responsibilities (well, it has a little bit to do with school, but it's just a byproduct).

Besides that, I already know that she's either interested in some other guy (not my friend, though I'm not exactly surprised), or not interested in anyone at all.

[Caael]

I knew you would say that. Read my post again, more specifically the bit about subconcious.

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'Not being ready' isn't an excuse- it's just your subconcious making up excuses to convince yourself that you dont want to be in a relationship and I KNOW it is- it's the exact situation I was in. You over analyse every situation, you read too much into things in order to try and push yourself away from the connection you've formed.

Those last two things you've brought up are both assumptions that you have made in order to disconnect yourself from her. You're pushing yourself away because you're convinced that you aren't ready for it, and in all honesty, most relationships start that way; completely on a whim with no prior planning. Hell, I got with my current girlfriend whilst drunk at a party and the morning after decided to take it further. Being compulsive is a very beneficial trait once you learn how to use it and put aside all preconceptions of a situation.

[Mallick]

Baby steps, Caael. At least he's stopped spewing the God jargon.

[Ironsight]

Don't listen to them, Toasty. You can go back and woo all the bitches once you've delivered that compression program to Bill Gates and become a billionaire.

[Toasty]

/:

Caael, on Aug 24 2010, 09:58 PM, said:

I knew you would say that. Read my post again, more specifically the bit about subconcious.
Those last two things you've brought up are both assumptions that you have made in order to disconnect yourself from her. You're pushing yourself away because you're convinced that you aren't ready for it, and in all honesty, most relationships start that way; completely on a whim with no prior planning. Hell, I got with my current girlfriend whilst drunk at a party and the morning after decided to take it further. Being compulsive is a very beneficial trait once you learn how to use it and put aside all preconceptions of a situation.

Caael, it's not subconscious. I've got things I need to take care of, or I'm literally going to fall flat on my ass after I get out of high school. These things are also things that I know would push her away if I ended up dating her.

The last thing that I want to do is to bring her down, and as it stands, that's exactly what I'd be doing if I dated her. I've got a lot of good qualities, but they all mean nothing without a work ethic, which I simply lack in its entirety. She, on the other hand, is a hard worker (as are most of my friends), and she's almost as smart as I am to boot (and if I don't pick up the pace, she'll pass me up pretty soon).

Whether she actually loves me or not is frankly irrelevant at this point, because I can't get into a relationship with her with a clear conscience knowing that. And my work ethic isn't the only problem (though I'm not about to go listing them off).


Also, Jesus.

[ThankMeLater]

Ironsight, on Aug 24 2010, 11:36 PM, said:

Don't listen to them, Toasty. You can go back and woo all the bitches once you've delivered that compression program to Bill Gates and become a billionaire.

Dude, don't fucking encourage him.. it gives him false hope.

[Toasty]

Ironsight, on Aug 24 2010, 10:36 PM, said:

Don't listen to them, Toasty. You can go back and woo all the bitches once you've delivered that compression program to Bill Gates and become a billionaire.

Oh wow, almost missed that one there.

Thanks for the good advice bro, I'll keep it in mind. :(

[ThankMeLater]

Too bad with money it'll be even harder to foresee which relationship is the right one, as you'll never know who's after you for you, or your money.

[Zeypher]

But either way you'll probably get your dick wet. So it's a win-win.

[ThankMeLater]

Except it's Toasty, and he'll never have pre-marital sex, meaning it's a lose-lose.

[Zeypher]

So anyway, I was looking at candy in the vending machine before my morning class started today and this really cute girl I've been wanting to talk to was there too and I couldn't gather the courage to say something. Tis the life I live.

[Toasty]

Wow you're retarded.

But not in the literal or demeaning sense.


Just talk to her man. :\



And before anyone says anything, yes, I have talked to the girl I like. Many times, in fact. I've known her for forever.

Just fyi.

[Lemontime]

FOREVER IS A LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG TIME!! You should know that.

[Mallick]

Forever isn't long at all when I'm with you


You should know that.

[ThankMeLater]

It may not meaning nothing to ya'll
But understand nothing was done for me
So I dont plan on stopping at all
I want this shit forever, maine

[I'm Always BROKE]

Zeypher, on Aug 26 2010, 07:00 AM, said:

So anyway, I was looking at candy in the vending machine before my morning class started today and this really cute girl I've been wanting to talk to was there too and I couldn't gather the courage to say something. Tis the life I live.

Thats the life we all lived at some point. Just get your act togheter, suprress the 'omfg she's hot, what would she think of me' nervousness and you'll be fine. Just say hi to her first and see what will happen.

[Wild Fox]

Toasty, on Aug 24 2010, 09:52 PM, said:

No, believe me when I say it Caael, I'm not ready for a relationship at this point in my life. I want one, but I'm just not ready, and it has nothing to do with school or prior responsibilities (well, it has a little bit to do with school, but it's just a byproduct).

Ehhhh, I hear ya Toasty. I don't know what exactly you're trying to sort out, but sometimes you have things to take care of and aren't ready to be with someone. I was in that place in between relationships. I was emotionally abused by my last boyfriend and had a really messed up perspective on relationships. When I met my current boyfriend I was a mess and blew him off when he asked me out. Good thing for him, or else he would have gotten burned by me. I wound up dating a few boys, hurting them, taking free dinner from them, and waking up next to them thinking "wtffffffffffff". I had to come to terms with what was in my head. Now I'm in a relationship and totally happy.

Bottom line: sort your stuff out Toasty. I doubt its as bad as what I did (teehee). If you are having issues with whatever it is then you don't want to ruin a good thing. I doubt you'll be a slutbag and pull a one-night stand but you don't want to pull the emotional equivalent of one. But when you do sort things out, DO NOT WASTE ANY TIME. And don't tell her all about your stuff...leave that conversation for when you guys actually ever do start dating.

*grabs umbrella to shield from the downpour of disagreement*

PS: I'm not a slut. It was one guy. That I woke up next to. Maybe two.

[Toasty]

Lol

Sounds pretty rough, but it's good to see you got through it okay.


And I tend to agree very often with your advice. It's good.

[ThankMeLater]

Wild Fox, on Aug 27 2010, 01:30 AM, said:

Ehhhh, I hear ya Toasty. I don't know what exactly you're trying to sort out, but sometimes you have things to take care of and aren't ready to be with someone.

He's not ready for a relationship because he thinks the Bible says you shall not date before marriage, not because of some personal turmoil. He's just blinded by ignorance. Ignore him, please.

[Aquamarine]

In a week it'll be 6 months with my girlfriend, and I haven't cheated on her once, even though I've had a couple of opportunities. I can't believe how much I've changed in the past year or so.

[Eugine]

Two+ months with this girl and no cheating either! Personally saw another girl I think can give me a better time, but we'll see where it goes.
Honestly, I can't describe it, but I've been so happy recently.

[Mallick]

You're not cheating on your girlfriends! I'm proud of you.

[Eugine]

It is an accomplishment to feel proud of imo =]

[Toasty]

ThankMeLater, on Aug 27 2010, 11:37 AM, said:

He's not ready for a relationship because he thinks the Bible says you shall not date before marriage, not because of some personal turmoil. He's just blinded by ignorance. Ignore him, please.

Don't tell me what I think. I never said anything of the sort, nor do I believe that. So stfu.

I think I know myself better than someone who's never met me before in person.

[ThankMeLater]

Lol, ginger, shut up.

And I doubt it.

[I'm Always BROKE]

Edit: lolz

[gsninja]

Got drunk as hell last night and I hooked up with jailbait for the first time in a couple years, but nooooooo, she doesn't fucking want sex because she's "not ready" for it. On one hand, I respect that because she's not a whore giving in to the whole sex craze, but on the other hand, my dick isn't getting wet from that.

FML

[ThankMeLater]

Lolz. Get out the sock and face cream sir. Or am I the only one that does that?

Now let us return to our scheduled programming; ie, toasty bashing.

[Zeypher]

I hate toast.

[ThankMeLater]

i know right? you toast it. you butter it. it falls on the ground. butterside up of course. you ragesmash the toaster. you go and watch tv. nobody wins.

[Toasty]

*chomps down on fingers*

Dang, I taste delicious!

[ThankMeLater]

shut the fuck up

[gsninja]

Settle down assholes. <3

I love toast, though.

[Toasty]

ThankMeLater, on Aug 28 2010, 08:35 AM, said:

shut the fuck up

Love you too honey bun. <3

[Zeypher]

Toasty, on Aug 28 2010, 05:14 PM, said:

Love you too honey bun. <3

But will you do anything about it? No.

[ThankMeLater]

Toasty, on Aug 28 2010, 05:14 PM, said:

Love you too honey bun. <3

shut the fuck up

[Toasty]

ThankMeLater, on Aug 28 2010, 06:17 PM, said:

shut the fuck up

Toasty, on Aug 28 2010, 04:14 PM, said:

Love you too honey bun. <3

[Golden Legacy]

Toasty, on Aug 28 2010, 05:14 AM, said:

*chomps down on fingers*

Dang, I taste delicious!

This is where context would be so helpful.

[ThankMeLater]

ThankMeLater, on Aug 28 2010, 09:35 AM, said:

shut the fuck up

@toasty

[Toasty]

I'd continue, but I can see this is going nowhere. ):

[Zeypher]

http://www.google.com/images?q=thread+is+g...h=641&uss=1

6th image....

[ThankMeLater]

Toasty, on Aug 28 2010, 10:25 PM, said:

I'd continue, but I can see this is going nowhere. ):

i can go all day with this

[I'm Always BROKE]

Anyone ever been to Tunesia?

[ThankMeLater]

no. anyone else been to jamaica?

[Zeypher]

No. Anyone else been to American Furniture Warehouse?

[ThankMeLater]

im canadian.

[Moonear]

This topic has not been talked about since August 27th...

[Golden Legacy]

Diddy Kong, on Sep 2 2010, 02:40 AM, said:

Anyone ever been to Tunesia?

Thinking of a trip there?

[ThankMeLater]

ihatekraden, on Sep 3 2010, 07:41 PM, said:

This topic has not been talked about since August 27th...

?

[Moonear]

As in, I'm pretty sure GSN's post was the last one that had anything to do with "Love, Commitment, and Down-going" since August 27th. But I guess down-going and commitment are pretty vague in this context.

[Zeypher]

I love lamp.

[I'm Always BROKE]

Golden Legacy, on Sep 4 2010, 04:48 AM, said:

Thinking of a trip there?

Well yeah. I might be going there next year with this Danish girl I met on this year's holiday. ;) However, she's also brining her cousin (who I also know) and 2 friends (2 girls). She said she'll talk about it with them. Calling her tomorrow night so I really hope she says it's all cool.

[Zeypher]

Bump.

These past few months I've realized that I don't have any friends IRL that I talk to. The only people (other than my parents) that I talk to on a regular basis are Internet people. I also seem to think about my ex gf in some way every night before I fall asleep, then I tend to dream about her in some way (we broke up on February 14th).

Is there something wrong with me?

[Moonear]

Zeypher, on Sep 28 2010, 03:05 AM, said:

Bump.

These past few months I've realized that I don't have any friends IRL that I talk to. The only people (other than my parents) that I talk to on a regular basis are Internet people. I also seem to think about my ex gf in some way every night before I fall asleep, then I tend to dream about her in some way (we broke up on February 14th).

Is there something wrong with me?

Valentines Day? Ouch.
Well, you're in college, right? Do you talk to people you know in real life using the internet, or do you only talk to people you've met online?

[Caael]

Broke up with gf yesterday. Not really too phased, knew it was gonna happen so mentally prepared self. She's not taking it well.

[Toasty]

Zeypher, on Sep 28 2010, 02:05 AM, said:

Bump.

These past few months I've realized that I don't have any friends IRL that I talk to. The only people (other than my parents) that I talk to on a regular basis are Internet people. I also seem to think about my ex gf in some way every night before I fall asleep, then I tend to dream about her in some way (we broke up on February 14th).

Is there something wrong with me?

I've got a similar problem. Only I always end up thinking about the girl that still hasn't ever been my girlfriend. :P

Though I also do talk to a lot of people throughout the day on a regular basis since I'm still in high school. I hardly ever talk to anybody after school though, unless it's Wednesday (youth group).


But yeah, I'd go as far as to say you're mildly depressed. Make an effort to talk to other people/make new friends/whatever, and try and make a habit of not thinking about your ex before you fall asleep. Unless there's any chance at all that you two might get back together. Since she'd probably baawww if you told her that. Maybe.

[Zeypher]

Toasty, on Sep 28 2010, 05:16 PM, said:

Unless there's any chance at all that you two might get back together. Since she'd probably baawww if you told her that. Maybe.

LOL. She broke up with me for another guy.

Maybe I'll dedicate myself to god's teachings like you have. Just kidding.

[Toasty]

Toasty, on Sep 28 2010, 04:16 PM, said:

Unless there's any chance at all that you two might get back together. Since she'd probably baawww if you told her that. Maybe.

Meaning if there isn't than disregard what comes next.

[Caael]

Lol @ Toasty giving advice

[Aquamarine]

I was thinking the exact same thing. Not to mention that the advice is so obvious.

[Toasty]

Sometimes people need to have someone point out the obvious before they'll take the advice they already had in mind.

[Zeypher]

I never take advice given by Toasty.

[Golden Legacy]

If it's solid advice, it doesn't matter who it comes from, it's worth reading.

[Toasty]

Zeypher, on Oct 1 2010, 05:24 PM, said:

I never take advice given by Toasty.

Then you're saying you don't trust your own judgement enough to take the advice you more likely than not already gave to yourself?

[jamec9869]

girls only hug guys who are huggable. being huggable is a plus, but doesn't mean they like you. In fact they're more likely to not like you if they hug you. But some will hug you if they like you. Good luck with differing those two.

[Ironsight]

Wise spambot.

[Saturos S.]

{edit}

[Aquamarine]

My girlfriend and I broke up about a week ago. We were together for 6 months and 27 days to be exact. She meant a lot to me(and still does) so I'm taking it kinda hard... I'm feeling a lot better than I did 3 days ago though. We didn't finish our relationship with a fight or anything like that, we just felt it was enough. So we're still friends and will most likely still be having sex... Like last time when we broke up. So that's obviously great, having sex with her but being able to have other girls too. Still, it's not the same. I miss her.

[Zeypher]

Went to a football (American) game last Friday and talked to a girl there - first time I talked to a female (not counting my mom) since I graduated High school on May 29th. Ironically, it was the same girl that was the last one I talked to on graduation.. If that makes any sense.

[Mallick]

Zeypher, on Oct 8 2010, 01:52 AM, said:

Went to a football (American) game last Friday and talked to a girl there - first time I talked to a female (not counting my mom) since I graduated High school on May 29th.

Aren't you in college right now?

[Aquamarine]

Zeypher, on Oct 8 2010, 10:52 AM, said:

Went to a football (American) game last Friday and talked to a girl there - first time I talked to a female (not counting my mom) since I graduated High school on May 29th. Ironically, it was the same girl that was the last one I talked to on graduation.. If that makes any sense.

Did you tap that?

[Mallick]

he mad

[Zeypher]

Aquamarine, on Oct 11 2010, 02:51 AM, said:

Did you tap that?

I wish.

Mallick - I'm going to Community College this year so there really aren't any girls in my age range there.

[Caael]

So I've just fucked up somebody's life totally, and there's no connection to me being involved at all and is effectively untraceable.

Yes, they deserved it and yes I'm a devious bastard.

[Toasty]

details plox

[Zeypher]

The plot thickens!

[Golden Legacy]

www.dramabutton.com

[Caael]

> Asked close friend to refrain from doing something for me
> Close friend promised not to
> 5 minutes later find evidence of close friend already breaking promise
> Have close friend's facebook password
> Close friend doesn't know I have his password.
> Karma

[Aquamarine]

I'm guessing he went after a girl you were interested in or your ex, right? Then he definitely deserves having his life ruined.

Anyhow, I have a new girlfriend. Well, she's not so new, we've been together for a bit over a month and a half now. I'm having a great time with her, we get along pretty swell.

[Caael]

Aquamarine, on 15 December 2010 - 07:02 AM, said:

I'm guessing he went after a girl you were interested in or your ex, right? Then he definitely deserves having his life ruined.

Anyhow, I have a new girlfriend. Well, she's not so new, we've been together for a bit over a month and a half now. I'm having a great time with her, we get along pretty swell.

Spot on

[Zeypher]

Alright, GSSF, I have a problem.

There's this really cute girl in my math class that I want to talk to, but I can't figure out how to approach her. We sit in the same row but there's this douche bag that sits in between us so I'm not really able to talk to her in class.

halp

[Lemontime]

Up the bum no babies.

Do it.

[Toasty]

Switch seats with the guy. =O

[Caael]

Talk to her..not in class? Cmon Zeyph, if you're doing maths then it should be simple. % of time spent in class compared to % of time out of class. Latter will be greater therefore probability of talking to her outside class is higher. Or something.

[Zeypher]

Caael, on 18 January 2011 - 04:50 PM, said:

Talk to her..not in class? Cmon Zeyph, if you're doing maths then it should be simple. % of time spent in class compared to % of time out of class. Latter will be greater therefore probability of talking to her outside class is higher. Or something.

Haha. That's what I plan on doing. I need a good way to approach her though other than just saying "Hey I'm Carl" or whatever. Don't really know what to say after that other than the obvious "What do you plan on majoring in?" and etc.

[Caael]

Zeypher, on 18 January 2011 - 06:58 PM, said:

Haha. That's what I plan on doing. I need a good way to approach her though other than just saying "Hey I'm Carl" or whatever. Don't really know what to say after that other than the obvious "What do you plan on majoring in?" and etc.

That's essentially what small talk is. Try and get her to talk about herself because then she'll talk for ages with you having to say very little, just nodding or something, and then you'll look like a super-listener person and she'll talk to you more. Obviously dont let her just preach her problems to you, get involved as well.

[Zeypher]

I did exactly what you told me, Caael. It was the most awesome moment in my girl-talking-to career.

Details I gathered from our conversation included her mentioning something about her boyfriend. FUCK.

[Aquamarine]

Don't worry about that, boyfriends exist to be cheated on.

Caael, on 19 January 2011 - 06:53 AM, said:

That's essentially what small talk is. Try and get her to talk about herself because then she'll talk for ages with you having to say very little, just nodding or something, and then you'll look like a super-listener person and she'll talk to you more. Obviously dont let her just preach her problems to you, get involved as well.

I LOVE the talkative girls. I don't have to do any work, they do it all for me.

[Zeypher]

Aquamarine, on 19 January 2011 - 11:39 AM, said:

Don't worry about that, boyfriends exist to be cheated on.


I LOVE the talkative girls. I don't have to do any work, they do it all for me.

Hmm, so I should get to know her and hope she succumbs to my dashing good looks and undeniable charm? My ex broke up with me for another guy so idk about doing essentially the same thing.

[Caael]

Aquamarine, on 19 January 2011 - 11:39 AM, said:

I LOVE the talkative girls. I don't have to do any work, they do it all for me.

Yeah and the awkward ones really piss me off because they're so hard to talk to because all they say is like one word answers. Bitches.

And Zey, see if there's trouble in paradise. More often then not there is and you can help instigate the break-up! Sounds like a dick thing to do but just keep telling yourself that its for her benefit, not yours (or dont, either way you win)

[Lemontime]

Wow you guys are ****s.

[Caael]

Lemontime, on 19 January 2011 - 02:06 PM, said:

Wow you guys are ****s.

What if she's in an abusive relationship, huh!?


Zey, find out more about the relationship and if it's on the brink just subtly try to break it off. If it seems well then its best to leave it cuz either you'll look like a dick, desperate, or both trying to break up a happy relationship.

[Toasty]

Zeypher, on 19 January 2011 - 11:46 AM, said:

Hmm, so I should get to know her and hope she succumbs to my dashing good looks and undeniable charm? My ex broke up with me for another guy so idk about doing essentially the same thing.

I wouldn't propose trying to get her to break up, but that's just me. :P

Though if you shy away from her now, she'll realize you were looking for a relationship of some sort, and since she already has one, she'll probably avoid you. Probably.

So talk to her more, regardless of the fact that she has a boyfriend. If she breaks up with her boyfriend, you'll have a better chance of ending up with her this way.

[Mallick]

most important advice you will ever hear: don't take advice from toasty on this subject.

[Zeypher]

I think that's common sense, really.

[Toasty]

:D

[Lemontime]

Toasty's actually made the best suggestion here, don't try and break up someone elses relationship just because you wanna get your tip wet, think about their feelings (her / her boyfriend) and how you'd feel if the same thing happened to you. If it IS an abusive relationship, and you're absolutely certain, maybe speak to her about it and if she agree's with you then that's a win for your friendship, but don't go out of your way to get into a relationship with her straight away..

[Caael]

Lemontime, on 22 January 2011 - 10:01 PM, said:

Toasty's actually made the best suggestion here, don't try and break up someone elses relationship just because you wanna get your tip wet, think about their feelings (her / her boyfriend) and how you'd feel if the same thing happened to you. If it IS an abusive relationship, and you're absolutely certain, maybe speak to her about it and if she agree's with you then that's a win for your friendship, but don't go out of your way to get into a relationship with her straight away..

WORD STEALER

[Lemontime]

Caael, on 23 January 2011 - 09:36 AM, said:

WORD STEALER

Your avatar is the scariest thing in the whole damn world.

[Zeypher]

Another lonely Valentine's Day </3

[Someone Else]

DISCOUNTED CANDY TOMORROW

[Zeypher]

Candy is overrated.

[Someone Else]

I'd argue that non-platonic relationships are too in society today, but then I'd be accused of being lonely and in denial and hey we all have preferences.

[Caael]

http://images.encyclopediadramatica.com/images/0/0e/Forever_Alone.png

[Zeypher]

Someone Else, on 15 February 2011 - 03:24 AM, said:

I'd argue that non-platonic relationships are too in society today, but then I'd be accused of being lonely and in denial and hey we all have preferences.

You used too many big words.

[Someone Else]

Caael, on 15 February 2011 - 08:39 AM, said:

http://images.encyclopediadramatica.com/images/0/0e/Forever_Alone.png

Well played sir =P

[Ironsight]

Caael, on 15 February 2011 - 08:39 AM, said:

http://images.encyclopediadramatica.com/images/0/0e/Forever_Alone.png

http://img806.imageshack.us/img806/6589/tryingtonotcallyouafagg.jpg >hotlinked from ED

[Zeypher]

Erectile dysfunction...?

[Someone Else]

encyclopedia dramatica

[Caael]

Ironsight, on 15 February 2011 - 06:25 PM, said:

http://img806.imageshack.us/img806/6589/tryingtonotcallyouafagg.jpg >hotlinked from ED

Problem officer?

[Nosferatu]

Julia. Moving to Burnaby (HEY PDM GET A WORKING FUCKING COMPUTER) and she may too.

[Aquamarine]

Almost four months with my gf now. Having a wonderful time with her. :D

[Caael]

Aquamarine, on 17 February 2011 - 07:50 AM, said:

Almost four months with my gf now. Having a wonderful time with her. :D

Fuck you and your happiness, this is the lonely thread we dont need your kind here

[Aquamarine]

I thought you guys would be happy for me... I AM DISAPPOINT. :'(

[Toasty]

I'M HAPPY FOR YOU AQUA


....no, not in that way. But happy none the less.

[Someone Else]

CONGRATS ON GETTING SOME AQUA

[Lemontime]

Almost 2 years with my girlf. suk mi dik aqua

[gsninja]

oh em gee i'm so happyface 4 u guys <3

I really need to get out of my town. No girl is worth it here.

[Caael]

gsninja, on 21 February 2011 - 07:56 PM, said:

oh em gee i'm so happyface 4 u guys <3

I really need to get out of my town. No girl is worth it here.

Sounds like a combination of hipster/foreveralone

"THESE GIRLS ARE TOO MAINSTREAM 4 ME FOREVERALONE.JPG"

[Someone Else]

I'm not interested in anybody in my town either but then again, I don't get out all that much. Everything's boring in teh suburbs :|

[gsninja]

Caael, on 21 February 2011 - 08:10 PM, said:

Sounds like a combination of hipster/foreveralone

"THESE GIRLS ARE TOO MAINSTREAM 4 ME FOREVERALONE.JPG"

Haha, I can't stand people who are hipster or too mainstream, but when it comes to looking for a girl, those things take a back seat. There are more important things to look at.

The reasons I can't stand the girls where I live are that they love to cause drama and they're shit-talkers like you wouldn't believe. They're sadistic ****s that gossip half the time they talk and love to talk behind your back. I honestly can't have a conversation with any of my girl friends (Well, the majoirty of my friends, for that matter) without the topic veering towards what we hate about the rest of our friends. There's more, but I honestly feel pissed off just typing this.

As for the forever alone part, I've been feeling that way for the past few weeks, I'll admit. I'm usually not a depressed ****** like that, but I can't help it.

Someone Else, on 21 February 2011 - 08:17 PM, said:

I'm not interested in anybody in my town either but then again, I don't get out all that much. Everything's boring in teh suburbs :|

tru dat

[I'm Always BROKE]

I like too many girls at the moment... It's getting a little out of control.

Also, congrats Aqua. :) I'm actually happy for you dude. Haha.

[Aquamarine]

@Everyone: Thank you!

@Lemon: Fuck you!

jk jk jk k? jk jk jk

[Drizzy Drake]

Zeypher, on 19 January 2011 - 11:25 AM, said:

I did exactly what you told me, Caael. It was the most awesome moment in my girl-talking-to career.

Details I gathered from our conversation included her mentioning something about her boyfriend. FUCK.

the fact that you used the term "girl talking to career" pretty much guarantees you'll be a virgin for life, so it doesn't really matter if she has a gf or not.

Mallick, on 19 January 2011 - 08:44 PM, said:

most important advice you will ever hear: don't take advice from toasty on this subject.

just thought i'd retweet this so it can be made abundantly clear: taking advice from toasty about love or relationships is about as helpfull as taking adivce on how to stay sober from kurt cobain.

[Mallick]

I'm not actually making a judgement on you guys, but how can you guys be so open about this? I'm feeling so conflicted about posting my situation in this thread.

[Toasty]

It's the internet. The chances of actually meeting face to face is slim (if still probable). And even if we did, it wouldn't make a potential meeting any more awkward than it would have been in the first place.

Plus, there's the chance that the horrible advice you're bound to get may end up working out for you.

[Caael]

If you cant be open on the internet, where can you be?

[Drizzy Drake]

Toasty, on 25 February 2011 - 08:36 AM, said:

It's the internet. The chances of actually meeting face to face is slim (if still probable). And even if we did, it wouldn't make a potential meeting any more awkward than it would have been in the first place.

Plus, there's the chance that the horrible advice you're bound to get may end up working out for you.

when it's coming from you there's no chance tbh.

[Nosferatu]

Caael, on 25 February 2011 - 08:51 AM, said:

If you cant be open on the internet, where can you be?

A whore house.

Yeah I went there.

[Mallick]

Caael, on 25 February 2011 - 08:51 AM, said:

If you cant be open on the internet, where can you be?

IRL.

[Caael]

>_> Point = missed


I meant in the context of, the internet is where you are essentially a faceless entity who has no or little personal connection to anyone else, so if you cant tell the fellow faceless entities about your problems then how the fuck are you gonna tell IRL people?

[Mallick]

Perhaps if we were all still faceless identities to each other, your point would have had more validity. I completely knew what you meant the first time 'round.

[gsninja]

The fact remains that we don't know each other on a level that we would know each other if we were friends in real life. You don't know the real personality or feelings of the person, you can't read body language or facial expressions...you know what I mean.

We may know each other a lot more than typical GFAGs or /b/tards do each other, but the fact is that it's not on a level that can only be reached by knowing each other IRL. That alone makes it much easier to open up on the internet.

[Lemontime]

Drizzy Drake, on 24 February 2011 - 02:25 AM, said:

just thought i'd retweet this so it can be made abundantly clear: taking advice from toasty about love or relationships is about as helpfull as taking adivce on how to stay sober from kurt cobain.

Or taking advice on how not to be a fuckwit from Drizzy Drake.

Shut the fuck up, man..

No need to insult the other members. Spread the love, bro. <3

[Drizzy Drake]

http://www.studioleaks.info/forums/images/smilies/smilies2/cry.gifhttp://www.studioleaks.info/forums/images/smilies/smilies2/cry.gifhttp://www.studioleaks.info/forums/images/smilies/smilies2/cry.gifhttp://www.studioleaks.info/forums/images/smilies/smilies2/cry.gifhttp://www.studioleaks.info/forums/images/smilies/smilies2/cry.gifhttp://www.studioleaks.info/forums/images/smilies/smilies2/cry.gifhttp://www.studioleaks.info/forums/images/smilies/smilies2/cry.gifhttp://www.studioleaks.info/forums/images/smilies/smilies2/cry.gifhttp://www.studioleaks.info/forums/images/smilies/smilies2/cry.gifhttp://www.studioleaks.info/forums/images/smilies/smilies2/cry.gif look how mad i got you? i wasn't even trying to troll and you're seething so hard i can see smoke coming from your ears. note to reader; you're a dumbass and when i'm mean(http://www.studioleaks.info/forums/images/smilies/smilies2/cry.gif @ the thought of me being a bully or "mean") here i'm just fucking around.

[Caael]

When did this forum get the MSN crying smiley

[Someone Else]

Dipsy likes hotlinking his own smilies.

[Toasty]

He's just using a gif image.

@PDM: Anyway, I've spoken about my situations a few times in the past before on here, and though I doubt I'll be doing it again (ever), I don't imagine you'll have as rough of a time with it.

[Lightning Star]

@nos: I lol'd.

I think because the internet is impersonal, it makes it possible for people to open up. Because, seriously, what do you have to lose? Nobody's gonna give you a weird look, and nobody knows you well enough to use the information you provide against you. Unless it's facebook. But even there, people don't post nearly as personal stuff on there as they would on a forum like ours...well, most people don't...


I'm happily single. I went on a few dates with a guy I liked way back during my first semester of college. We had an amazing time, I finally felt something real, meaningful and pure. He's enlisted in the army, though, so at the end of this school year he'll be leaving for basic training and some more technical training. We decided against a relationship for that reason, but we're still good friends.

I made a lot of mistakes last year; messing around, hooking up, and degrading myself. I finally closed the door on that about a month ago, and I really couldn't be happier. I'm nearly getting straight A's and I think right now, I just need to focus on building my future rather than having a boyfriend.

[I'm Always BROKE]

Where ever you go, there's always the risk of people thinking "this motherfucker is CRAZY" about you when you open up to them about things troubling you. And to be honest, yeah we might be crazy at times. But should we feel bad about that? No, at least, not more to be able to change the destructive behavior to constructive behavior. Live and learn people.

Then again, I'm still a lazy motherfucker who's not able to resist temptations very well but whatever... :)

[gsninja]

"Hey, Andrea, let's hang out!"

"Uh, I'm a bit busy, gimme about an hour and I'll be free then. I'll call you when I'm done."

"Ok, sweet, talk to you later!"

*Almost an hour passes*

*Calls friend*

*No response for the rest of the night*

I'm gonna say it again, my friends really suck.

[Lightning Star]

eh, thought it was relevant and worth noting, so here goes:

I was looking through a very OLD laptop of mine, which pretty much served to store a bunch of word documents and picture files (and thats it). I found a saved e-mail from one of my exes and it shocked me, and very nearly scared the crap out of me. Because I realized I have never, EVER loved someone as much as I loved him. This email was written in 2006, meaning it's a little less than 5 years old. You do the math.

Furthermore, I've never had a relationship as meaningful, successful and as close to perfection as that one. I've dated plenty of guys, flirted around with my share, yet they all pale in comparison to the sheer compatibility we had. I guess it scared me because I'm afraid I'll never find that again. I know I'm still young, and I was hella young when I dated this guy. But I know there was so much love behind the words he wrote, and the words that I wrote back. Maybe what scares me more is that I kind of miss him.

So I guess here's to hoping that he still pokes his head in here every once in a while, and a toast to high standards. I know I'm not gonna settle for anything less, not now.

[gsninja]

You've probably heard enough of the "Don't keep your standards too high!" kind of talk, so I'm just gonna say that I hope you find someone at least almost perfect for you. It sounds kinda corny, but someone's gonna walk into your life and make you realize why no one else was the right one.

It's difficult, but who ever said love was easy? :P

[Toasty]

People may say "don't keep your standards too high," but many divorces are the result of lowering your standards.

Honestly, I'd rather be single my whole life than be with someone I wasn't completely happy with. Doesn't mean they have to be perfect, but there's a difference between lowering your standards, and being reasonable.

What I'm trying to say, is don't simply say to yourself "Well, I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, and this guy seems to be good enough, so I'll just stick with him." <-- Recipe for disaster right there.

But hey, people say I never give good relationship advice, so feel free to disregard what I just said.

[gsninja]

Well, when we say not to keep your standards too high, we mean it more around the lines of not keeping them unrealistic. That's still a bit of a subconscious problem for me haha.

[Lightning Star]

Yeah, I get what you're both saying. I used to do what toasty described. "Well, I want a boyfriend, this guy likes me, and I guess he's nice. Why not?" Every time I've used that logic, it's ended terribly. But at the same time, I haven't dated someone that I particularly liked before the relationship very often. There are a few of those guys out there, but... leave it to me to like the ones in different cities, states, and now, countries! =.= Still, one of these days, I'll find that guy right in my own damn town. And I won't settle for less until then.

Not gonna lie though, I'm getting really comfortable with being single and being able to do what I want, when I want, without answering to anyone (or annoying, constant text-messages).

[Caael]

I'm in a pretty good place with current girlfriend. Goin' smoothly :D

[Zeypher]

She's hot. Good job Tim.

[Caael]

Zeypher, on 14 April 2011 - 08:45 PM, said:

She's hot. Good job Tim.

STALKER

[Zeypher]

It showed up in my news feed :(

[Caael]

Zeypher, on 15 April 2011 - 11:10 AM, said:

It showed up in my news feed :(

Fucking liar.

[Lightning Star]

...I never realized how hard it is to reject a person until today. I feel. so. bad. for this poor guy.

But either that, or I lead him on and hurt him worse, and I realized that option was a bad idea. Still, having to say aloud that I didn't feel for him what he felt for me made me feel like a terrible person. ;-;

[Zeypher]

Ha.

[Aquamarine]

Six months with current gf. Best relationship I've ever been in and she is one of the best people I have ever met. :)

[Zeypher]

Congrats bromine.

[Lemontime]

2 years and 2 months tomorrow woo.

[Toasty]

Was gonna ask someone to prom. Turns out she's got a senior class trip with her school that same weekend. :/

[Lightning Star]

D'aww, sad! Surprisingly, I didn't go to either my junior or senior prom. Didn't feel like getting ditched by all my friends who had dates.

And I've been thinking about that. My friends from high school/middle school are all either getting married or breaking up with their gf/bf's from back in the day. From an older perspective, my sister, in her 30's, knows couples who have divorced after getting married at my age. Why? because they're just different people now. And the same thing is happening with the people who've been together 4, 5 years.

I'm having fun being single, flirting, and not being tied down. I was always jealous of those who were in "successful" relationships, but in reality, I've got more room to grow, figure out who I am, and have fun than they do. And as I watch everyone break up, I couldn't be more thankful of this.

Because...I may have a summer fling lined up for me ;)

[Toasty]

Lol. Well good luck with that summer fling. ;)

Honestly (and I'm sure I'll get hammered for saying this since I "have no experience" but...), if you want to be sure you'll have a successful relationship, you need to know what you're getting into before hand. Teenagers tend to have a habit of holding onto their deepest secrets and never letting them go (until they're older), so you're going to have trouble really figuring out what that person is like. If you don't have a good idea of what a person is like before you start dating them, then there's a good chance it won't last. [enter "that's the reason why you date them!"]

There's also the fact that high school students are still developing their personalities, which you alluded to in your post. Teenage hormones can sure do a number on a good relationship. :P I'm just glad I got the chance to learn from all of my friends' mistakes.


IN OTHER NEWS. I apparently have a short and blonde secret admirer. She ordered a coffee at our school's cafe, had it sent to my classroom, and bolted. I know that she knows what my favorite coffee is, what my third period class is, and that she's probably a sophomore. I've already got my eye on someone else though (who goes to a different school), but I'm curious non-the-less.

[Caael]

That's not an admirer Toasty...better get the restraining order out.

[Toasty]

You may have a point there. :O

[Caael]

Does she have locks of your hair which she goes home and sniffs furiously, and other times doesn't sniff furiously?

[Toasty]

How am I supposed to know that? :S

[Lightning Star]

It's an admirer if she's pretty. If she's ugly, then she's a stalker.

[Someone Else]

Daaayum, I wish I had thought of that. I would've posted it on Facebook.

[Lemontime]

Toasty, on 04 May 2011 - 02:45 PM, said:

Honestly (and I'm sure I'll get hammered for saying this since I "have no experience" but...), if you want to be sure you'll have a successful relationship, you need to know what you're getting into before hand. Teenagers tend to have a habit of holding onto their deepest secrets and never letting them go (until they're older), so you're going to have trouble really figuring out what that person is like. If you don't have a good idea of what a person is like before you start dating them, then there's a good chance it won't last. [enter "that's the reason why you date them!"]

Knew my girlfriend for a month before we started going out.. 2 years 2 months later....

TOASTY U HAV NO XP

[Toasty]

Note how I never said a successful relationship was impossible unless you already knew them really well. ;)

[Someone Else]

I look at every woman as if she were a gay dude so that when I meet one who I'd still bang even if she WAS a gay dude I know she's the one

[Lemontime]

Someone Else, on 06 May 2011 - 05:59 PM, said:

I look at every woman as if she were a gay dude so that when I meet one who I'd still bang even if she WAS a gay dude I know she's the one

Post of the year 2011-forever

[Lightning Star]

Dee, If your post had a like button, I'd rape it.

also, you're welcome to use mine on FB if you like XD

[Toasty]

Why doesn't IPB let us like posts? :(

[Lightning Star]

Kinda sad right now. So I mentioned someone that I almost dated earlier in the semester here. We didn't date because he's leaving for basic training, and today was his last day in town.

Thinking he was leaving for good, I at least wanted to say goodbye, so we hung out for a bit. I was relieved to find he'd be back in 14 months, and even happier when he told me "I'm glad I got to see you before I left."

He walked me to my car and I didn't have the courage to tell him how much I was going to miss him or any of those sappy things you see in movies. We didn't kiss passionately nor did I pronounce my undying love. Instead I just gave him a long hug and (stupidly) told him not to die.

I guess I'm left with a bittersweet feeling. Neither of us want a relationship (that's half of why he enlisted). It'll give me a chance to be a crazy college party girl, a chance for him to get his shit pulled together, a future built for ourselves, and some time to figure ourselves out. Still, to get so close to someone then have some circumstance keep you from being together...

Sounds like the f*ckin story of my life. I guess this one will be a test of how long I can hold onto hope that it's not the end.

/sappy emotional post.