Sex, Relationships, and Ego Boosting Topic
#1801
Posted 09 July 2008 - 06:09 AM
Or as I posted before, One-itis. Which just sounds better.
And if you want to get somewhere with this chick, you need to get over here (trust on this) or else the butterfly's in your stomach will just **** it up when you talk to her.
I've been there, and I hate myself when I reflect on it. What a pussy.
#1802
Posted 10 July 2008 - 03:58 AM
I've had a crush before, I've been infatuated before, I've been smitten, and I've liked someone before. This falls into none of those categories.
I know I'll beat myself up if I never get around to saying anything. But like I said before, saying anything right now would be a pretty bad move.
#1803
Posted 10 July 2008 - 04:07 AM
Unfortunately, those crushes died easily though xP. I just found better people to focus on.
#1804
Posted 10 July 2008 - 04:26 AM
#1805
Posted 10 July 2008 - 04:31 AM
#1809
Posted 11 July 2008 - 02:42 AM
Toasty, on Jul 10 2008, 07:58 PM, said:
I've had a crush before, I've been infatuated before, I've been smitten, and I've liked someone before. This falls into none of those categories.
I know I'll beat myself up if I never get around to saying anything. But like I said before, saying anything right now would be a pretty bad move.
If there's nothing between you and no feelings on your side, why the 'awkward silence' then?
The girl I'm into now makes me feel alot different when I'm around compared to the last one I dated.
You can tell me to **** off if you want. No hard feelings.
#1810
Posted 11 July 2008 - 04:05 AM
The awkward silence stems from my general lack of conversational skills. :) It applies to pretty much every conversation I have with anyone in real life. I'll strike up a conversation, and then after a while it'll hit a dead end. I suppose maybe I should end the conversation before then? :)
I like this girl a lot. Don't get me wrong. I just don't know why. I feel like I'm connected to her somehow, I guess.
#1812
Posted 11 July 2008 - 05:03 AM
#1813
Posted 11 July 2008 - 06:23 AM
#1814
Posted 11 July 2008 - 01:29 PM
"A personality doesn't draw your eye from across the street"
#1815
Posted 11 July 2008 - 01:44 PM
#1816
Posted 11 July 2008 - 02:56 PM
And i'm not gay.
I would never go out with somebody just because they're a great person. As split said, if they're some greasy fat munter, then **** no. She's got to be at least plausible.
#1817
Posted 13 July 2008 - 05:08 PM
I keep creating problems in my relationship. I mean, he's a great guy, and yeah he can be juvenile at times, but he's a man sooo kinda guaranteed to happen. You guys actually started our latest fight XD Something about animals rights and apparently he used to hunt for funsies. Anyways, he said he'd never talk about it again and that's fine right. But earlier he was asking me to say nice things about him and I'm like "why" because I don't like being put on the spot and he's like "well you never compliment me, you always just insult me in your sarcastic way" which I do but I'm playing because sarcasm is...me. So my first reaction is "wow what a girl" but then I think about how much he compliments me and how insecure I would be if he didn't, so I try to compliment him more often, but he brings up the same thing on our most recent phone call. So I'm like...dammit I've been trying, so he apologizes, even though he shouldn't have to, but I'm still left thinking. I don't know why, but I'm just thinking. So I have two theories: One, this is the first relationship in a long time that's actually been going well (in the sense that I haven't lost interest or whatever) and I'm afraid I'm going to sabotage it so I...sabotage it in defense? The second is that he doesn't say the right things. Like you know how girls have this idea of how conversations should go and how guys should respond to certain things? Well when I was in a bad mood I told him I'm going to call him back in a bit and hang up. 10 minutes later I phone back expecting him to say "wow I was so worried blablabla" instead he's like "it's a good thing you phoned I was about to fall asleep". Not paticularly wrong, he was just trying to lighten the situation, but still kinda irked me. Of course I realize that my wild expectations can't be applied to him but still at the end of the day I don't know what to do. Sooo...tell me something.
tl;dr: read it you lazy asses. And don't type while drunk.
#1818
Posted 13 July 2008 - 05:16 PM
#1819
Posted 13 July 2008 - 05:36 PM
kate, what's the question again? XD
Meh:
1.) Drop the expectations. It's a natural thing for girls to be naive and insane with expectations, but the sooner you learn this (if you haven't already) the better it is. Expectations only lead to disappointment.
and 2.) just dish out the compliments! It gets easier over time. At least it is for me now. But then, complimenting a girl is different than complimenting a guy so idk.
#1821
Posted 13 July 2008 - 06:30 PM
Naw, I'm just fucking with you.
#1822
Posted 13 July 2008 - 06:59 PM
Split Infinity, on Jul 11 2008, 05:23 AM, said:
Obviously, I wouldn't go out with a girl who I thought was ugly. However, I'd be happy with one who wasn't hot too.
I wouldn't think twice about dumping a girl who was either obsessed with herself, a drama junkie, or just plain stupid.
The girl I like doesn't fit into any of those three categories. But since I've known her for a while, and she's not too bad looking either, I've gotten to know what her personality's like.
#1823
Posted 13 July 2008 - 07:32 PM
Compliments...right. See just whatever I say always sounds cheesy or really bad timing or whatever. Girls are so easy for it, just call them pretty. And see that's the thing, I compliment my girl friends all the time, but when I call him cute he takes it as an insult to his manhood or something o.O it's not my fault he's adorable.
#1824
Posted 13 July 2008 - 07:38 PM
kate, on Jul 13 2008, 06:32 PM, said:
Compliments...right. See just whatever I say always sounds cheesy or really bad timing or whatever. Girls are so easy for it, just call them pretty. And see that's the thing, I compliment my girl friends all the time, but when I call him cute he takes it as an insult to his manhood or something o.O it's not my fault he's adorable.
Well yeah. I personally think she's beautiful. But there's obviously other girls who I think look hotter. However, I'm not looking for someone who's hot, I'm looking for someone who'm I think looks beautiful, and has a personality I find appealing.
As for your compliment to your friend, it depends on the guy. Usually the guy's who would take it as a compliment are the more sensitive types, and the ones who wouldn't are the more macho types.
#1825
Posted 13 July 2008 - 07:39 PM
#1826
Posted 13 July 2008 - 07:58 PM
#1827
Posted 13 July 2008 - 08:03 PM
#1829
Posted 13 July 2008 - 09:41 PM
Toasty, on Jul 11 2008, 08:05 PM, said:
The last girl I liked and briefly dated at the start I was really nervous. I couldn't open a conversation with her for awhile, my good mate had to do it for me. I couldn't even ask for a ride home from his girl, while my friend had to. I was a total chump, I reflect on myself and I just can't help but cringe.
Whereas the girl that I'm into now is totally different. I can talk to her easy as, bag her out whatever. But I don't feel any pressure to ask her out like the last one (even though she likes me, what the **** right)
I kinda lost track of what I'm saying and what I meant to say so...
Kate
1- So your boyfriend feels what, insecure? What you described sounds like clingy, needy behavior. Just compliment him on his dress, does he have a nice belt or shirt? Did his hair well today? Or just compliment him on something he does well. Does he drive well or pick up the bill?
You could also remind him that he's, well a guy. He shouldn't need constant reassurance from his girlfriend
2- He's a guy. We think logically, not with our emotions.
This story that GL posted should explain it better then I can.
#1830
Posted 13 July 2008 - 09:41 PM
I tried something like that split when I called him just now. I just always sound so sarcastic I don't know if he gets it even when I'm being serious. So instead I sound like I'm patronizing him XD
@watch: Yeah it happens in most of my relationships, he ends up being the needy one (emotional, clingy etc...basically the girl) and I'm the one who wants alone time and to not talk about our feelings (ie the guy). But he's actually really different most of the time, he just has this one little area. Apparently his last gf called him nonstop and was really clingy, so he takes me not being clingy as me not liking him. For the most part we've dealt with that, I just need to stop being so damn sarcastic.
#1831
Posted 13 July 2008 - 10:01 PM
Girls keep breaking up with me...
They say they already have a pussy,
they don't need another one
Why do you have to stop being sarcastic? Doesn't he respond to humor.
#1832
Posted 13 July 2008 - 11:10 PM
Though really, I think he should know you well enough to know when you're joking and when you aren't. :P
#1833
Posted 13 July 2008 - 11:13 PM
toasty, you're right, but even as I say it I sound sarcastic to myself. Like tone wise. Just if I try anything else it sounds so lame. Anyways I just called him again and complimented him even though it made me sound like a dork, so I hope he appreciates it XD
#1834
Posted 14 July 2008 - 12:38 AM
Afterall, if it wasn't ment to be appreciated, then the boyfriend/girlfriend wouldn't be doing it in the first place, or they probably wouldn't (want to) be boyfriend/girlfriend with the person they were doing something for. Am I correct?
#1835
Posted 14 July 2008 - 12:51 AM
#1836
Posted 14 July 2008 - 01:13 AM
I'm not saying that you should only go out with someone who will appreciate you (though obviously that' a plus), but if they really like you, wouldn't they appreciate what you do for them?
It's more of something that comes into play after a relationship has started, rather than a basis for starting a relationship.
Honestly, even if the girl I like didn't appreciate anything I did for her, I'd still love her and appreciate anything she did for me. But that's just me, and according to most of your standards, I'm crazy. :P
#1837
Posted 14 July 2008 - 01:47 AM
read that somewhere.. its kinda true and funny.
#1838
Posted 12 August 2008 - 05:41 PM
Laharl, on May 11 2008, 04:33 PM, said:
So she calls me. I had a little bit of a hard time making out what she was saying because she was crying a lot, but here's the gist of it:
She had been trying to call her bf all day, but then when she was out having lunch with her mom he saw him with another girl. He's supposed to be grounded. He saw her and he waved. She calls him later (I THINK, again, it was hard to make out what she was saying here) and he tells her that they were all at a peer advocate meeting (sort of a peer counselor thing) but she doesn't believe him, and from what she told me, I don't either.
That's when she called me, she didn't know who else to talk to. I didn't really know what to say. I've defended him a few other times with similar, but 100% smaller things but he really screwed up this time. I don't want to defend him, but I can't exactly just agree either. That wouldn't make things any better.
Later, she sends me a text saying that he's been trying to call her but she's ignoring him. I can't blame her. He ignored a bunch of her calls except when he finally got caught. I sent a text back but I haven't gotten a reply, so I think she finally decided to pick up on his calls.
:(
#1840
Posted 12 August 2008 - 07:06 PM
wd, I'm afraid I've gotta side with the boy. Or at least I think she's going to. I've been in the situation before and unless you're not telling us some part of it, it seems like a perfectly valid situation. He's grounded, so his phone gets taken away, or he's not near it, or it's off or on silent (mine's always on silent so I miss pretty much every phone call lol). He's allowed to go out because his peer advocate thing isn't exactly like going out to a party (just like when you're grounded you can still go to school). He sees her, and waves. That's really what convinces me he's genuine, if he were on a date with another girl, there would be no waving, because he'd probably hope she didn't see him, and want to avoid explaining to the girl he's with who that other chick is. He then ponders how his gf must have perceived the situation, so he tries to call her alot to reassure her, but she's not hearing it. So he keeps calling, because he cares, not because he thinks he's been found out. All makes sense to me. Then again he could be a peevy scumbag, but since she's his gf, she's probably gonna give him the benefit of the doubt and go with his story. On your part, I would just be mad at him while she's mad at him, then be happy with him when she's happy with him. Never defend him if she's pissed, and never dis him if she's happy. Always take her side.
tl;dr agree with the girl, but don't get your hopes up that this is splitsville or something.
#1841
Posted 12 August 2008 - 11:25 PM
Anyhoo, apparently they planned this peer advocate thing for months but he didn't tell her (and for some reason wouldn't pick up) because she hates the peer advocates. I don't really like them either. They're stuck-ups and elitists who are supposed to help other students, but they're very... exclusive. For example, this party thing was for advocates only. She'd like to go, but it's supposed to be them and only them. There's a bunch of other stuff about them too, but I won't go into it so just take my word for it when I say they're elitist.
Anyway, whatever way you slice it he still lied to her, and she's still a bit upset.
#1842
Posted 13 August 2008 - 12:19 AM
watch, on Jul 13 2008, 09:01 PM, said:
Your sister sounds like the opposite of mine. I was upstairs getting some tape the other day, my mom asked my sister if she was sick. My sister replied that she just wasn't wearing any make-up.
#1843
Posted 13 August 2008 - 12:55 AM
kate, on Aug 13 2008, 11:06 AM, said:
wd, I'm afraid I've gotta side with the boy. Or at least I think she's going to. I've been in the situation before and unless you're not telling us some part of it, it seems like a perfectly valid situation. He's grounded, so his phone gets taken away, or he's not near it, or it's off or on silent (mine's always on silent so I miss pretty much every phone call lol). He's allowed to go out because his peer advocate thing isn't exactly like going out to a party (just like when you're grounded you can still go to school). He sees her, and waves. That's really what convinces me he's genuine, if he were on a date with another girl, there would be no waving, because he'd probably hope she didn't see him, and want to avoid explaining to the girl he's with who that other chick is. He then ponders how his gf must have perceived the situation, so he tries to call her alot to reassure her, but she's not hearing it. So he keeps calling, because he cares, not because he thinks he's been found out. All makes sense to me. Then again he could be a peevy scumbag, but since she's his gf, she's probably gonna give him the benefit of the doubt and go with his story. On your part, I would just be mad at him while she's mad at him, then be happy with him when she's happy with him. Never defend him if she's pissed, and never dis him if she's happy. Always take her side.
tl;dr agree with the girl, but don't get your hopes up that this is splitsville or something.
Agreed.
He saw his girlfriend while he was with another girl and waved. He didn't go red or turn away or hide or stammer or anything, he waved and kept going because he had a meeting.
Sorry but I think she's making something out of nothing.
And of course he didn't pick up his phone if he was at some elitest club.
#1844
Posted 13 August 2008 - 01:25 AM
#1845
Posted 13 August 2008 - 02:13 AM
Everything about her was perfect. The sparkle in her smile, the adorable face, the heavenly voice. There could be no other girl in the world but her, I knew it would be her. Such beauty, such sincerity. The angelic face of heaven itself.
Then she looked away from the camera on television.
#1846
Posted 13 August 2008 - 02:30 AM
#1847
Posted 13 August 2008 - 03:06 AM
Golden Legacy, on Aug 13 2008, 01:13 AM, said:
Everything about her was perfect. The sparkle in her smile, the adorable face, the heavenly voice. There could be no other girl in the world but her, I knew it would be her. Such beauty, such sincerity. The angelic face of heaven itself.
Then she looked away from the camera on television.
Are you still going on about the Chinese' Olympics opening ceremony?
#1848
Posted 13 August 2008 - 12:39 PM
Split Infinity, on Aug 13 2008, 01:30 AM, said:
Quote
Anyway, whatever way you slice it he still lied to her, and she's still a bit upset.
So I'll try looking at the events through her eyes, since you guys don't seem to be doing that:
You wake up, late-morningish. Call your bf like usual. It goes through but you're met with voice mail at the end. Weird. Whatever. A half hour later you try again a few times and he still doesn't pick up. Strangeness. You and your mom go out to lunch, but on the way you see your bf WITH ANOTHER GIRL. He sees you and he waves, but you think this might be a cover. She's in the peer advocates like him, though. So you try calling some other peer advocates you know, but they don't pick up. (I forgot to mention that part)
So things are looking bad here. I'll reiterate the facts, your bf's phone was definitely on but he just wasn't picking up. Numerous calls and texts. You see him with another girl, might be some party but the supposed party mates didn't pick up. So what can you think? You worry, which leads to bad thoughts, which leads to calling me, apparently.
#1849
Posted 13 August 2008 - 03:33 PM
It doesn't seem like very solid ground for suspicion, especially if she hasn't had the chance to catch up with him yet.
#1851
Posted 13 August 2008 - 09:08 PM
Split Infinity, on Aug 13 2008, 02:33 PM, said:
It doesn't seem like very solid ground for suspicion, especially if she hasn't had the chance to catch up with him yet.
I really don't think you're considering everything I've said. He's supposed to be grounded. I'll agree, she jumped the gun a bit too fast, but I can't blame her either. You're just arguing for the sake of arguing, like you always seem to do.
#1852
Posted 13 August 2008 - 10:51 PM
But you're doing what's right, you should be looking at this through her eyes. But don't try and convince us she's right, because I guarantee you that to some degree, even she knows she's not.
#1855
Posted 13 August 2008 - 11:56 PM
Which, leads to the reaction she had. You getting why she was and still is a little upset now?
#1856
Posted 13 August 2008 - 11:58 PM
#1857
Posted 14 August 2008 - 12:00 AM
I already said, he had his phone with him. That's fact. And in this case it just means he's not allowed out of the house.
#1858
Posted 14 August 2008 - 12:07 AM
#1859
Posted 14 August 2008 - 02:25 AM
So they're "okay" for now, but things look shaky. And she doesn't see me as anymore than an extremely close friend. Which is a sort of a mixed feeling.
Everything's been a little weird. I like her a hell of a lot, a bit more than I think I should considering there probably isn't much chance to ever be with her that way.
Does anyone know a cure for this? (besides Split)
#1861
Posted 14 August 2008 - 06:27 AM
Wind Dude, on Aug 14 2008, 01:25 AM, said:
So they're "okay" for now, but things look shaky. And she doesn't see me as anymore than an extremely close friend. Which is a sort of a mixed feeling.
Everything's been a little weird. I like her a hell of a lot, a bit more than I think I should considering there probably isn't much chance to ever be with her that way.
Does anyone know a cure for this? (besides Split)
Murde-- I mean...
Not really. It's one of those things you just can't really get out of your head. You think you've gotten rid of it and then you see her on the way home and the feeling comes rushing back and you know you shouldn't have it because you already... And let's not ramble about that shall we?
#1862
Posted 14 August 2008 - 06:42 AM
#1863
Posted 14 August 2008 - 07:32 AM
Wind Dude, on Aug 14 2008, 01:25 AM, said:
So they're "okay" for now, but things look shaky. And she doesn't see me as anymore than an extremely close friend. Which is a sort of a mixed feeling.
Everything's been a little weird. I like her a hell of a lot, a bit more than I think I should considering there probably isn't much chance to ever be with her that way.
Does anyone know a cure for this? (besides Split)
You seem to be in a failry similar boat as me.
I used to think I loved her, but for some time just being a really close friend seems like the better decision. I'm kind of on the borderline between the two. When I think about what it would be like to be with her, something just doesn't fit. When I think about what it would be like to be a really close friend, being her boyfriend/whatever seems so much nicer.
Anyway, since you're close friends my quick-fix remedy might not work, but I just keep my mind on other things. Other than that, the point in time will come where you'll be given a choice of a cure, it'll be thrust upon you, or you'll just get over it. Whichever one it is will become apparent as that point in time comes closer.
I have this to say though: Don't be the one who decides if/when they break up, but if/when they do, make your decision then and stick with it. If it turns out you made the wrong one, then learn from it and be done with it. But if life gives you a second chance, then make the right one. As long as you keep you learn from your mistakes but don't dwell on them, you be wiser and happier. That goes for more than just relationships too.
Though as for the situation with her boyfriend, I'd say that either he lied to her and now things are okay because she believes it, or it's the truth that it was just an aquaintance and a party. I've also noticed that women are far more prone to be drama-junky-ish then men, and drama junkies are the ones who usually draw the "zomg he/she's cheating" conclusion. Not saying that that's never the right conclusion, but that's probably one reason why she drew that one. Though they're your friends, so you should be able to tell what the situation is better than we can.
If I were in her situation though, I'd just ask my girlfriend who the guy was and take her word for it. I'd only act on it if I had solid evidence that she was cheating. But that's me.
#1864
Posted 15 August 2008 - 05:38 AM
Wind Dude, on Aug 14 2008, 06:25 PM, said:
So they're "okay" for now, but things look shaky. And she doesn't see me as anymore than an extremely close friend. Which is a sort of a mixed feeling.
Everything's been a little weird. I like her a hell of a lot, a bit more than I think I should considering there probably isn't much chance to ever be with her that way.
Does anyone know a cure for this? (besides Split)
You'll get over it. The fastest way is to find someone/others that you like and can get with, otherwise, it just takes time.
Just go for it though.
(Don't get all chumpish and infatuated with her though. Cause then you'll just **** it up by elevating her in your mind or you'll just be a chump around her and goof it up)
#1865
Posted 15 August 2008 - 01:32 PM
So we're really close. She once said I'm the closest thing she has to a sibling. She even offered for us to live in an apartment together during our college years because her boyfriend still thinks he should with his mom, just like his brother. (what a loser) This isn't going to happen though, because she just learned her bf has a huge jealous streak.
See why I don't think I really have a chance with her, even if she's single? She just trusts me, almost too much.
I guess I shouldn't give up hope altogether, because last time we were alone for an extended period (which was at an anime and video game convention) we ended up flirting a little. She felt "bad" when we were talking about it after the con, and we just chalked it up to being bored since the con was a bit lame, but even so it could mean something.
#1866
Posted 15 August 2008 - 02:52 PM
Honestly I think the best thing to do is go on one date with someone else. Or talk about someone like you like them. Right now she's really comfortable, because she has bf and you. She doesn't even have to think about the true nature of her feelings for you. So start talking about someone else, or go on a single date with someone (don't get a gf, that will just make her lose hope), just enough so she thinks the opportunity to be with you is slipping away. Then she'll have to confront how she really feels about you, plus good ol' jealousy will help out. You won't notice it, obviously, since she's a girl, but it will get her thinking.
Getting over it won't happen while you're this close to her. Never has for me anyways.
#1867
Posted 15 August 2008 - 04:32 PM
#1869
Posted 15 August 2008 - 04:38 PM
#1871
Posted 15 August 2008 - 04:41 PM
#1874
Posted 15 August 2008 - 07:45 PM
kate, on Aug 16 2008, 06:52 AM, said:
Honestly I think the best thing to do is go on one date with someone else. Or talk about someone like you like them. Right now she's really comfortable, because she has bf and you. She doesn't even have to think about the true nature of her feelings for you. So start talking about someone else, or go on a single date with someone (don't get a gf, that will just make her lose hope), just enough so she thinks the opportunity to be with you is slipping away. Then she'll have to confront how she really feels about you, plus good ol' jealousy will help out. You won't notice it, obviously, since she's a girl, but it will get her thinking.
Getting over it won't happen while you're this close to her. Never has for me anyways.
Kate's got a fair point, by doing something with someone else will open her eyes to how you won't stay around for her forever, and if there is something there then it'll make her think.
Kate seems to give good advice, probably cause she's a girl and knows all the tricks :rolleyes:
Caael, just do it. If you honestly know in your head that you have a chance, then you actually do.
#1875
Posted 16 August 2008 - 03:29 AM
#1877
Posted 17 August 2008 - 06:46 PM
#1878
Posted 17 August 2008 - 06:51 PM
#1879
Posted 17 August 2008 - 07:06 PM
#1880
Posted 17 August 2008 - 07:08 PM
#1881
Posted 17 August 2008 - 07:10 PM
#1883
Posted 17 August 2008 - 07:11 PM
Hey how do you know when to break up with someone?
#1884
Posted 17 August 2008 - 07:13 PM
#1885
Posted 17 August 2008 - 08:37 PM
It started somewhere around him irrationally swearing at me and ended with him trying to keep me by telling me he loved me and buying me things. Now I just need to give him back his stuff and then BLAMMO, I'm a bachelor again :rolleyes:
...I mean bachelorette <.< >.>
#1886
Posted 17 August 2008 - 08:42 PM
kate, on Aug 17 2008, 07:37 PM, said:
It started somewhere around him irrationally swearing at me and ended with him trying to keep me by telling me he loved me and buying me things. Now I just need to give him back his stuff and then BLAMMO, I'm a bachelor again :rolleyes:
...I mean bachelorette <.< >.>
Yeah that's a pretty lame apology. I've done better. Unfortunantly. *sigh*
And I've never gotten that. Why do most couples always leave stuff at the other's house?
#1888
Posted 17 August 2008 - 10:26 PM
#1889
Posted 17 August 2008 - 10:34 PM
#1890
Posted 17 August 2008 - 10:44 PM
#1892
Posted 18 August 2008 - 01:36 AM
#1893
Posted 18 August 2008 - 01:41 AM
kate, on Aug 18 2008, 10:46 AM, said:
Because girl's 'subtle' hints aren't really hints when they're flirty to everyone, you should think about this from a guys point of view, it's confusing.
#1895
Posted 18 August 2008 - 02:41 AM
I said subtle hints don't work when it comes to a flirty girl. As in a flirty girl needs to give not as subtle hints to a guy she likes when she has a flirty personallity.
#1896
Posted 18 August 2008 - 05:42 AM
And kate, only give the stuff back if he asks for it. You can never have too much free stuff :rolleyes:
Yeah, buit i'm really not bothered about my situation. I mean, if it works out, then great, but if not, I dont really care either.
#1897
Posted 18 August 2008 - 10:18 AM
Y'know I never actually thought about it being confusing because of girls that are all around flirtatious. I guess that's my problem when I like more than one guy at a time.
meanwhile: fsck men. Not you guys, you don't count. I've decided I'm gonna go ahead and let him break up with me, partly because it will mean a cleaner break, and partly because I'm scared of what he'll do if I dump him.
#1898
Posted 18 August 2008 - 10:32 AM
kate, on Aug 18 2008, 12:18 PM, said:
Y'know I never actually thought about it being confusing because of girls that are all around flirtatious. I guess that's my problem when I like more than one guy at a time.
meanwhile: fsck men. Not you guys, you don't count. I've decided I'm gonna go ahead and let him break up with me, partly because it will mean a cleaner break, and partly because I'm scared of what he'll do if I dump him.
Pussy. Be a man and dump his ass.
#1899
Posted 18 August 2008 - 08:33 PM
#1900
Posted 18 August 2008 - 09:50 PM
So she's said she's determined in getting me a girlfriend. Or at least a date. Cripes.
#1902
Posted 18 August 2008 - 10:04 PM
I'm probably going to have to say that one day, though. Dunno how long I can keep up the "we'll see" and "I'm not interested in anyone right now". (really hate saying that last one as it's such a lie)
#1903
Posted 18 August 2008 - 11:01 PM
Ok I don't mean I'm scared of breaking up with him because I don't want to break his heart. I mean I'm scared of breaking up with him because I'm scared of him. He gets really emotional and physical when he's upset. Buuut he has until the end of the week and then it's done.
And then I'm going to turn gay because men are pretty much girls anyways.
#1904
Posted 18 August 2008 - 11:09 PM
#1905
Posted 18 August 2008 - 11:11 PM
Kate- That actually sounds quite dangerous, was he like that at the start? Just bring a guyfriend along with you or do it in a group.
#1906
Posted 18 August 2008 - 11:15 PM
#1908
Posted 19 August 2008 - 12:06 AM
#1909
Posted 19 August 2008 - 12:38 AM
Wind Dude, on Aug 18 2008, 10:15 PM, said:
Any comment?
#1910
Posted 19 August 2008 - 01:23 AM
Wind Dude, on Aug 19 2008, 03:15 PM, said:
So she's stopped him from moving schools in his final year of school so she can be with him at school? Control freak considering she thought he was cheating on her not long ago.
You're obivously way hung up about this chick, you like her, she likes you and trusts you, she's in a deteriating relationship. Just do it.
#1911
Posted 19 August 2008 - 02:33 AM
He did something that made her no longer trust him.
To me, I don't see why she's still trying so hard with this relationship. I guess it's admirable. She says he isn't what she wants, but he's close. I could say the same thing about her.
#1912
Posted 19 August 2008 - 02:38 AM
Wind Dude, on Aug 19 2008, 01:33 AM, said:
I had no idea you could accidently go on a date with somebody. *sigh* Why most guys on this planet be born without brains?
At any rate, from the looks of things it doesn't seem like it will last much longer. Just bide your time if you actually want to ask her out or whatever.
#1913
Posted 19 August 2008 - 03:23 AM
Chump. Tell her I said that.
#1914
Posted 19 August 2008 - 05:18 AM
Wind Dude, on Aug 19 2008, 01:33 AM, said:
He did something that made her no longer trust him.
To me, I don't see why she's still trying so hard with this relationship. I guess it's admirable. She says he isn't what she wants, but he's close. I could say the same thing about her.
Well if you're the only other guy in her life, she might feel a little awkward i it's just the two of you. But only if she sees you as "more than a friend" and is in a slightly similar boat as you. Though I can't say how likely that is. Probably not very, seeing as this other guy is close to what she wants.
I can kinda see why she'd want to be with him though, but that would mean that she's probably either very confused, co-dependant, or really sure of what she wants. Or maybe even something else.
As for her trying to hook you up with someone, ask her who it is and then tell her you're not interested (if you know who it is). It'd be the truth, anyway. If it's someone you don't know, let her hook you up so you can get to know the other person (or make your friend think that you got to know them) and then tell her you're not interested in them.
Or go out with one of them and break up a week later. =P
#1915
Posted 19 August 2008 - 10:25 AM
kate, on Aug 19 2008, 01:01 AM, said:
Ok I don't mean I'm scared of breaking up with him because I don't want to break his heart. I mean I'm scared of breaking up with him because I'm scared of him. He gets really emotional and physical when he's upset. Buuut he has until the end of the week and then it's done.
And then I'm going to turn gay because men are pretty much girls anyways.
Bring a guy along with you.
And if you go gay, Tink is living with me, because he doesn't need to see that till he's atleast 5.
watch, on Aug 19 2008, 02:06 AM, said:
HEY!
#1916
Posted 19 August 2008 - 11:35 AM
and wd, listen to toasty. It's basically what I was about to say.
watch, you don't know her, you're just trying to bait wd, and she frankly wouldn't care that some guy from the internet called her a chump. And who says chump anymore?
#1917
Posted 19 August 2008 - 12:33 PM
kate, on Aug 19 2008, 01:35 PM, said:
and wd, listen to toasty. It's basically what I was about to say.
watch, you don't know her, you're just trying to bait wd, and she frankly wouldn't care that some guy from the internet called her a chump. And who says chump anymore?
Dude, pull a Beyonce, and gtfo on your left
If you're a Gucci watch then I'm a ****ing Rolex
And chump is so 90's.
#1918
Posted 19 August 2008 - 08:11 PM
kate, on Aug 20 2008, 03:35 AM, said:
Yes I am. He's posting the same stuff about this girl and how he feels. If what he's posted is accurate then this chick does like him, and her current boyfriend shouldn't last much longer. I realise she wouldn't care what I say, I don't really think WD would tell her anything we say, why would he bring up a bunch of internet people offering advice and perspectives?
And chump is awsome. Try and think of a better word that describes someone who is a loser/fustrated/ignorant/akward etc.
Also I'd think about the 'date someone for a week' thing. Yes it does show the girl you have options and people are more attracted to what they can't have, but, if she were to hook you up with a chick and you dump her after a week, what message will that send to the girl you like about how long a relationship with you would last?
I'm not saying don't do it, doing a takeaway is one of the best things you can do to get the attention you need, but just think about it.
Dipset, on Aug 20 2008, 04:33 AM, said:
And chump is so 90's.
I'd rather be a Guess watch...
And don't pretend like you don't like the attention Skidz.
#1920
Posted 19 August 2008 - 08:24 PM
Love the word Pejorative now aswell.
Words and phrases are pejorative if they imply disapproval or contempt. When used as an adjective, pejorative is synonymous with derogatory, derisive, dyslogistic, and contemptuous. When used as a noun, pejorative means "a belittling or disparaging word or expression".
#1924
Posted 21 August 2008 - 12:07 AM
Her stalking boyfriend is stalking her.
Creepy.
Hire a bodygurad Kate. Preferably a big black guy named Bruce.
#1925
Posted 21 August 2008 - 06:07 AM
Life is good..
#1928
Posted 21 August 2008 - 01:13 PM
Or I guess you could do 'the test' and check.
#1929
Posted 21 August 2008 - 01:33 PM
#1930
Posted 21 August 2008 - 01:38 PM
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ouch, nasty image there XD
#1932
Posted 21 August 2008 - 07:07 PM
#1933
Posted 21 August 2008 - 08:14 PM
#1937
Posted 22 August 2008 - 09:49 AM
#1939
Posted 22 August 2008 - 01:04 PM
Or not. I guess there's a first time for everything
#1940
Posted 22 August 2008 - 01:25 PM
#1941
Posted 22 August 2008 - 01:51 PM
#1946
Posted 23 August 2008 - 03:00 AM
Besides, I'd rather have a real relationship anyway.
#1949
Posted 23 August 2008 - 05:25 AM
#1951
Posted 23 August 2008 - 05:59 AM
Seriously though, a condom won't protect you against a good number of STD's. Like genital warts.
#1953
Posted 23 August 2008 - 06:13 AM
#1954
Posted 23 August 2008 - 07:58 AM
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#1956
Posted 23 August 2008 - 10:21 AM
Lemontime, on Aug 23 2008, 02:27 AM, said:
Naw, cause I get action almost ever night.
Toasty, on Aug 23 2008, 05:02 AM, said:
I'm not a virgin, and I'm STD free. So are most of my friends. It's like saying "DON'T WALK DOWN THE STREET, YOU COULD GET HIT BY A CAR!!!!!"
#1958
Posted 23 August 2008 - 10:41 AM
#1959
Posted 23 August 2008 - 10:44 AM
#1960
Posted 23 August 2008 - 10:45 AM
cuming inside a chick without a condom on feels oh soo good.
#1961
Posted 23 August 2008 - 10:46 AM
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Too much info Dippy 0_o
#1962
Posted 23 August 2008 - 10:47 AM
edit-pfft, you're 17, don't act like you get scurred about secks talk.
#1964
Posted 23 August 2008 - 10:49 AM
PENIS!~!! VAGINAA!! CUMFARTS!!! STUPID FAT FUCKING JEW FACE!!!! sorry, got touretts.
whoever gets the reference gets a cookie.
#1965
Posted 23 August 2008 - 10:50 AM
Your gonna get banned again, so be careful dippy xD
#1968
Posted 23 August 2008 - 04:40 PM
Soo my relationship is over. And guess what? He was a total jackass about it. I mean, personally I think there's a certain etiquette to breaking up, and he was just the worst. But whatever, at least he's out of my life.
I would rant more but most of it has to do with my new drawn conclusions as to what men are, and you guys are all men (except wd, nearly forgot) so that wouldn't go so well.
I should date more nerds. They at least appreciate women because they understand how rare it is to get one.
#1969
Posted 23 August 2008 - 04:56 PM
kate, on Aug 23 2008, 03:40 PM, said:
I would rant more but most of it has to do with my new drawn conclusions as to what men are, and you guys are all men (except wd, nearly forgot) so that wouldn't go so well.
I should date more nerds. They at least appreciate women because they understand how rare it is to get one.
1. How'd he handle it? I understand it's bad but...
2. Go talk to Sheba for me k thnx. Also WD's a girl?
3. I think that's a ba-zing.
#1970
Posted 23 August 2008 - 05:11 PM
#1971
Posted 23 August 2008 - 05:15 PM
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Quote of the day! lol and you just need to find the right person, at our age is more like trial and error, we get wiser etc etc, so yaa.
#1972
Posted 24 August 2008 - 12:43 AM
I may have never had a girlfriend before, but I have yet to find anyone who's actually worthwhile to be with that isn't....inaccessible.
So yeah.
Anyway Kate, look at the brightside. You're free to go find someone better than him now. Just get to know them better before becoming bf/gf.
#1973
Posted 24 August 2008 - 03:37 AM
#1974
Posted 24 August 2008 - 03:41 AM
Some people want to get out there and date people, and some people prefer to wait until either a) someone comes along that just clicks with them, or b) they get into college. Whichever comes first.
If you're smart, you'll be able to discern what other people's personalities are like, and so you won't need to go through any trial and error. You'll know before hand. Granted, that's not always possible, but it gets rid of some guess work.
#1975
Posted 24 August 2008 - 04:59 AM
Saw my ex-gf that moved to a different city today and she went back home tonight, and my lord do I miss her.. I've never felt so separated, this sucks!
So I'm saving for plane tickets, perhaps.. <_<
#1978
Posted 24 August 2008 - 10:02 AM
#1979
Posted 24 August 2008 - 11:01 AM
Later I'm walking around campus for a bit, and she notices me and comes up to me.
She actually comes over and initiates the conversation, totally caught off-guard. But we introduce ourselves, talk for a bit, and then she invites me to sit down with her for lunch.
Turns out we have a lot in common, both grew up in NYC (both in Flushing, the same area!), and we started to reminisce about a lot of the sights and people back there. We're both the oldest of our siblings, a surprising interest in Eastern European/Middle Eastern politics, same faith and also liberal.
One of the few girls I've met who I feel genuinely interested in talking with, about any subject. Has the substance, open-minded, and also isn't shallow and into her appearance (i.e. no make-up, polish or anything), yet she is still remarkably pretty.
And now we're friends, already sitting together in class and walking together and she's introducing me to her friends.
Damn I love college.
P.S. She's also two years older. <_<
#1981
Posted 24 August 2008 - 03:43 PM
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Same for me and generally I can't be bothered, I'm happy as I am, why spoil it ;)
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Some people want to get out there and date people, and some people prefer to wait until either a) someone comes along that just clicks with them, or <_< they get into college. Whichever comes first.
If you're smart, you'll be able to discern what other people's personalities are like, and so you won't need to go through any trial and error. You'll know before hand. Granted, that's not always possible, but it gets rid of some guess work.
I've got to be honest i haven't seen many people who actually look at it this way, iv seen more people think this way in this forum then my town xD SO they basically go who they think is pretty, got to be honest image can be deceiving! hence iv actually seen in my town that relation last about 2 weeks since they go on looks and then realizes there got nothing really in common or its just they don't click, I say facepalm xD
GL, you sir have pulled xD
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Too soon! xD
#1982
Posted 24 August 2008 - 04:08 PM
kate, on Aug 25 2008, 02:02 AM, said:
Yes.
She is really the nicest girl I know in the world, and the most fun to be around..
When we broke up it was cause we never got to see each other, so we were still on good terms..
In the months before she left I hardly saw her, though, and then when she did leave we started talking a lot more on msn and stuff, and when I saw her yesterday it was the most fun I've had with another person in like forever..
#1983
Posted 24 August 2008 - 08:38 PM
Just get a hold of Split and tell him to stalk her. Eventually she'l get so creeped out that she'll come running back to your town, and you'll both live happily ever after.
Split can ust be the 10 ton gorrila in the room.
Golden Legacy, on Aug 24 2008, 10:01 AM, said:
Later I'm walking around campus for a bit, and she notices me and comes up to me.
She actually comes over and initiates the conversation, totally caught off-guard. But we introduce ourselves, talk for a bit, and then she invites me to sit down with her for lunch.
Turns out we have a lot in common, both grew up in NYC (both in Flushing, the same area!), and we started to reminisce about a lot of the sights and people back there. We're both the oldest of our siblings, a surprising interest in Eastern European/Middle Eastern politics, same faith and also liberal.
One of the few girls I've met who I feel genuinely interested in talking with, about any subject. Has the substance, open-minded, and also isn't shallow and into her appearance (i.e. no make-up, polish or anything), yet she is still remarkably pretty.
And now we're friends, already sitting together in class and walking together and she's introducing me to her friends.
Damn I love college.
P.S. She's also two years older. ;)
What about the other girl you were telling us about some time ago?
Anyway, it seems you've found a good match. Spend some more time with her and get to know her better, I guess.
Seems odd that you're both from the same town and she just suddenly strikes up a conversation with you.
I think she joined the CIA, and the CIA wiped the memory of all her friends and family after they relocated her.
So really, you've actually been friends since childhood. [/conspiracy]
#1985
Posted 25 August 2008 - 03:47 AM
watch, on Aug 25 2008, 04:37 PM, said:
Just curious GL, you into her as a friend or more then a friend?
She didn't want to, her parents made her..
And yeah, drive me down, won't be weird.. It can be the first official gssf road trip... :S
#1986
Posted 25 August 2008 - 11:17 AM
Toasty, on Aug 24 2008, 10:38 PM, said:
Anyway, it seems you've found a good match. Spend some more time with her and get to know her better, I guess.
Seems odd that you're both from the same town and she just suddenly strikes up a conversation with you.
I think she joined the CIA, and the CIA wiped the memory of all her friends and family after they relocated her.
So really, you've actually been friends since childhood. [/conspiracy]
Ahh, from my old school, that sort of just fell apart. My fault mostly, should have actually acted, but she was also rather, err, "friendly" with guys and liked to drink quite often.
Which is a bad combination.
The one I talked about just now is definitely a better match, big time. I can't get over how unlike other girls she is, yet is really interesting to talk to at the same time. And also just gives subtle hints that she actually finds me worth her time, as opposed to other ****** who always talk to me as if they were "humoring themselves".
Don't know if that makes sense, but it's something I've had to go through all my life.
watch, on Aug 25 2008, 02:37 AM, said:
Right now, as a really cool person/friend. I think with time I'll start to fall for her, but for now, I'm honestly genuingly just interested in talking with her and finding out a little more.
Which is sure to happen this coming Wednesday, she's asked me to come with her to go over some of our Organic Chem notes - God I love that class now. XD
#1987
Posted 25 August 2008 - 11:21 AM
Just sayin' it how it is <_<
#1988
Posted 25 August 2008 - 11:27 AM
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Just sayin' it how it is tongue.gif
*Faceplam*
#1991
Posted 25 August 2008 - 08:58 PM
Lemontime, on Aug 25 2008, 07:47 PM, said:
And yeah, drive me down, won't be weird.. It can be the first official gssf road trip... :S
Absolutely, It wouldn't be an akward 10 hours at all. <_<
Well her parents get the respect points then, either way someone made the call and they're legendary.
#1992
Posted 25 August 2008 - 10:35 PM
#1993
Posted 15 September 2008 - 06:44 PM
you go half....half....WHOLE!!!
Half half WHOLE!!! swirl
half half whole!!! swirl......hide behind a rock.
#1997
Posted 15 September 2008 - 07:45 PM
Vanessa Hudgens, on Sep 15 2008, 05:44 PM, said:
you go half....half....WHOLE!!!
Half half WHOLE!!! swirl
half half whole!!! swirl......hide behind a rock.
The sad thing is I know exactly what he's talking about.
What's sadder is that to Dipsy sex = relationship =/