Sex, Relationships, and Ego Boosting Topic
#803
Posted 05 April 2008 - 12:06 AM
On another note, great tonight social dancing with the swing dancing club, including the girl I like. Did not tell her, though I did however get the number of a crazed 24-year old English Christian missionary, who either wants to meet up with me badly to tell me why I should convert or wants to actually date.
Never saw that one coming.
#804
Posted 05 April 2008 - 12:54 AM
#806
Posted 05 April 2008 - 02:01 AM
[EDIT] *facepalm* It's ihk, right?
#808
Posted 05 April 2008 - 02:12 AM
Golden Legacy, on Apr 4 2008, 11:06 PM, said:
On another note, great tonight social dancing with the swing dancing club, including the girl I like. Did not tell her, though I did however get the number of a crazed 24-year old English Christian missionary, who either wants to meet up with me badly to tell me why I should convert or wants to actually date.
Never saw that one coming.
Ahaha, awesome! That sounds like something that would happen to me, actually...
#809
Posted 05 April 2008 - 07:35 AM
But ontopic, it's nice that you had a good time GL. You should totally mack on that Christian, and make her sin, if you know what I mean.
#810
Posted 05 April 2008 - 09:38 AM
kate, on Apr 5 2008, 02:54 AM, said:
What is it you want to know??
Dipset, on Apr 5 2008, 09:35 AM, said:
What are you talking about?
#811
Posted 05 April 2008 - 09:52 AM
just... what the ****.
#812
Posted 05 April 2008 - 11:23 AM
EDIT-Ok, Harris is IHK. Ya, I feel sorry for IHK. Remember, if Coz tries any moves, you can always whip out that Mace, I'm sure he's used to useing it on others before. Women do use it alot, right Coz?
#813
Posted 05 April 2008 - 11:26 AM
#814
Posted 05 April 2008 - 11:28 AM
#815
Posted 05 April 2008 - 11:32 AM
what I wanted to know coz is when you discovered this attraction to ihk, what you're doing about it, etc. Personally I still think you might be kidding o.O
#816
Posted 05 April 2008 - 11:45 AM
I think it's actually a compliment for a gay guy to be attracted to you... Plus, if you're confident about your sexuality, it shouldn't be a big deal.
#817
Posted 05 April 2008 - 11:49 AM
Dipset, on Apr 5 2008, 01:23 PM, said:
EDIT-Ok, Harris is IHK. Ya, I feel sorry for IHK. Remember, if Coz tries any moves, you can always whip out that Mace, I'm sure he's used to useing it on others before. Women do use it alot, right Coz?
Dipskip, Haaris is IHK, he knows that I am not going to sexually assualt him and all the gay jokes aren't funny. Also, saying that gay people will sexually assault is prejudice.
Dipset, on Apr 5 2008, 01:28 PM, said:
I don't understand, you feel sorry for IHK ibecause I am attracted to him?? What can't you imagine about a guy liking you, that someone besides your made up girlfriend likes you?
@Caael: Yes
kate, on Apr 5 2008, 01:32 PM, said:
what I wanted to know coz is when you discovered this attraction to ihk, what you're doing about it, etc. Personally I still think you might be kidding o.O
Im serious, when I realized it I kept it to myself for the longest time because I didnt know what to do. I told some people about and I was given a lot of different advice which eventually led to me telling him the truth. First he pretended that he was oblivious to what I said, then on AIM he got really angry and threatened to kill me, and the next day at school he pretended nothing ever happened and that we were cool again.
EDIT: .eugine = smart
#818
Posted 05 April 2008 - 11:52 AM
#819
Posted 05 April 2008 - 11:53 AM
killercoz, on Apr 5 2008, 01:49 PM, said:
Also, saying that gay people will sexually assault is prejudice.
I don't understand, you feel sorry for IHK ibecause I am attracted to him?? What can't you imagine about a guy liking you, that someone besides your made up girlfriend likes you?
They are to me. The drug joeks seem to be funny to you, so why can't the gay ones be?
I never said gay people will sexually assualt, I'm just saying if he tries anything, to please kill you. It would benefit us all.
Yes, I do feel sorry for IHK. It must suck that you are attracted to him, and that you obviously want a relationship. I could imagine a guy being attracted to me, I was just making a point. And are you really going on about the whole "fake girlfriend" thing? I'm gonig to my friend's house in an hour, so I'll get a pic up then. Will that suffice? Or will you still be delusional, and not believe me? You seem to be the only person on here who doesn't. But I guess not believing me isn't the only thing that makes you different.
#820
Posted 05 April 2008 - 11:59 AM
Dipset, on Apr 5 2008, 01:53 PM, said:
I never said gay people will sexually assualt, I'm just saying if he tries anything, to please kill you. It would benefit us all. Your the only one here who wants me dead, something I don't want for you.
Yes, I do feel sorry for IHK. It must suck that you are attracted to him, and that you obviously want a relationship. Why would it suck?I could imagine a guy being attracted to me, I was just making a point. And are you really going on about the whole "fake girlfriend" thing? I'm gonig to my friend's house in an hour, so I'll get a pic up then. Will that suffice? Or will you still be delusional, and not believe me? You seem to be the only person on here who doesn't. But I guess not believing me isn't the only thing that makes you different.No, iI don't truly believe it, I just think its funny that you actually think that I think you're lying.
#821
Posted 05 April 2008 - 12:02 PM
#822
Posted 05 April 2008 - 12:06 PM
And coz, are you sure, you have no attraction for Skidz?
#823
Posted 05 April 2008 - 12:09 PM
****, that was funny. Props.
#824
Posted 05 April 2008 - 01:12 PM
#825
Posted 05 April 2008 - 02:55 PM
Now can we Please get back on topic like we were supposed to two pages ago?
#827
Posted 05 April 2008 - 04:50 PM
#830
Posted 05 April 2008 - 05:12 PM
i'm surrounded by people who get in family feuds over pertty squabbles. on a regular basis :/
i'll keep my money and time thank you very much
#835
Posted 06 April 2008 - 03:59 AM
#836
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:12 AM
#837
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:24 AM
#838
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:50 AM
#839
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:52 AM
#840
Posted 06 April 2008 - 05:31 AM
#842
Posted 06 April 2008 - 08:49 AM
#843
Posted 06 April 2008 - 08:53 AM
Girl: No
wtf?
And Diddy, I know how you feel man =)
I'm not in the same situation now, but I was in it last year x.x
#845
Posted 06 April 2008 - 10:44 AM
Kinda complicated issue really, but I'll just wait for her reaction this week, cause last week we texted each other A LOT so I'm waiting for her reaction on this cause afterall, I did some flirting with her yesterday, I just didn't told her I like her...
#846
Posted 06 April 2008 - 10:46 AM
#850
Posted 06 April 2008 - 12:07 PM
Plus, not everyone who are active posted in this topic you know. Nick has a GF last time I remembered for eg.
Who says Max doesn't have a GF because he doesn't post in this topic?
#851
Posted 06 April 2008 - 12:36 PM
#852
Posted 06 April 2008 - 01:11 PM
#853
Posted 06 April 2008 - 01:17 PM
#854
Posted 06 April 2008 - 01:20 PM
Welcome to Club Relationships SoT. We hope you have a good time.
EDIT @ Caael-Hmm, yes. But you may not enter any of the specialty rooms. You may only enter the main area. Drinks are still free though, so....drink up.
#856
Posted 06 April 2008 - 01:27 PM
#857
Posted 06 April 2008 - 01:31 PM
#859
Posted 06 April 2008 - 01:36 PM
#860
Posted 06 April 2008 - 02:20 PM
Dipset, on Apr 6 2008, 12:20 PM, said:
Welcome to Club Relationships SoT. We hope you have a good time.
EDIT @ Caael-Hmm, yes. But you may not enter any of the specialty rooms. You may only enter the main area. Drinks are still free though, so....drink up.
Why is Skidz the leader of this club? People were in relationships before he came along.
#861
Posted 06 April 2008 - 02:33 PM
#862
Posted 06 April 2008 - 02:35 PM
If she liked you lots, it would have lasted more than 3 weeks.
#866
Posted 06 April 2008 - 03:31 PM
Wind Dude, on Apr 6 2008, 05:01 PM, said:
Chris Crocker says is brilliantly ^__^
http://www.youtube.c...h?v=Rp198k984Yw
#868
Posted 06 April 2008 - 03:53 PM
And you had respect for me Caael?
#869
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:00 PM
#871
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:03 PM
.eugine, on Apr 6 2008, 02:31 PM, said:
I actually think that guy (?) is pretty smart, a lot of what his says is true. At least from the videos I've watched, though it's not much. It's a bit hard to take him seriously though, what with the voice and the face and... yeah.
If I were to get a girlfriend now, it's because my two best friends are dating each other. If they weren't, I wouldn't see any incentive. At all.
Dipset, on Apr 6 2008, 03:00 PM, said:
And there's a problem with that? You, sir, are codependent.
#872
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:06 PM
#877
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:11 PM
#878
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:12 PM
#879
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:12 PM
Kate and I are to marry when the world floods and all the people under 6 feet drown.
#880
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:13 PM
*tear* I love him <333
anyyywho, being on a break doesn't mean there's another guy, but it certainly is a possibility, because if that doesn't work then she could just come back to you and say the break's over. inteeeresting.
#882
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:14 PM
#883
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:15 PM
#886
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:18 PM
"taking a break" is just a term for people who are to scared to actually say "we're over", either because they don't want the confrontation or because they're still hoping it could work.
#888
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:19 PM
kate, on Apr 6 2008, 04:18 PM, said:
"taking a break" is just a term for people who are to scared to actually say "we're over", either because they don't want the confrontation or because they're still hoping it could work.
Exactly. It's weird for Caael's girl to use that term because they've only been dating three weeks. For such a short-term relationship, it should be easy to say "it's over".
#889
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:35 PM
#890
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:38 PM
#891
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:41 PM
Thanks for agreeing, but keep it over five words - SoT
#892
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:43 PM
#893
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:45 PM
On a side note, a girl called me asking to have dinner with her (not the girl from before or the demented/crazed 24-year-old English Christian missionary), couldn't go because I was at work, so we rescheduled.
#894
Posted 06 April 2008 - 04:47 PM
I have this problem when I'm in relationships where I get jealous of whoever it is I'm going out with. It might be part of an inferiority complex or something, but when they do something big and important part of me is proud and the other part is jealous that I haven't done anything that big or important. I keep trying to make an effort to change and put that in the back of my head, but sometimes it goes as far as to ruin the mood I'm in.
I don't mean to sound whiny or anything, but that's just the way it is, and I really don't want to feel like this looking forward to the future.
#895
Posted 06 April 2008 - 05:03 PM
Sea of Time, on Apr 6 2008, 11:07 PM, said:
The only possible guy who could be involved is my friend Carl, who had an operation on the day me and Rosie broke up and she was worried that if it went wrong, he could die ( there was a 20% chance), and she's already said to me it's because she had a terrible day and one thing went wrong after another and she said it felt right to break up with me on that day now, and she says she's having regrets now.
#897
Posted 06 April 2008 - 05:11 PM
Golden Legacy, on Apr 6 2008, 06:45 PM, said:
On a side note, a girl called me asking to have dinner with her (not the girl from before or the demented/crazed 24-year-old English Christian missionary), couldn't go because I was at work, so we rescheduled.
GL you player. :o. What's her personallity like, and is she good looking.
Sea of Time, on Apr 6 2008, 06:47 PM, said:
I have this problem when I'm in relationships where I get jealous of whoever it is I'm going out with. It might be part of an inferiority complex or something, but when they do something big and important part of me is proud and the other part is jealous that I haven't done anything that big or important. I keep trying to make an effort to change and put that in the back of my head, but sometimes it goes as far as to ruin the mood I'm in.
I don't mean to sound whiny or anything, but that's just the way it is, and I really don't want to feel like this looking forward to the future.
Just so I don't get confused. You aren't jelous of other men, you tend to feel bad when your partner does something nice for you, and you haven't?
Hmm. This is a difficult one. This may be something you'll have to gradually get over, and to help, you might want to do something in return. Say your gf gives you something really nice and expensive for your birthday, then do the same for hers. I really don't have any more advice on this situation. I hope it helped.
#898
Posted 06 April 2008 - 05:27 PM
#900
Posted 06 April 2008 - 05:31 PM
#902
Posted 06 April 2008 - 05:56 PM
SoT, I have been in that position in a previous relationship. There's no reason to be jealous, so just be proud of them.
#904
Posted 06 April 2008 - 06:51 PM
Forget it guys. Just talk about Caael's ****. Obviously it's more interesting and "mature".
I censored another mod! O:
#905
Posted 06 April 2008 - 06:55 PM
#906
Posted 06 April 2008 - 06:59 PM
Meanwhile, I also suck at relationships, but what I can say is it's possible you feel jealous because you think she's going to think less of you if you're not doing as well as her, in which case I would just talk to her about it. However make it very very clear you want to be proud of her, you're just having difficulty, or she'll think you're just a jerk :o
#907
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:01 PM
#909
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:05 PM
#910
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:05 PM
I admit, everyone feels jealous. The best way to combat jealously is to simply do better yourself.
Work twice as hard SoT... do better than your GF.
#911
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:07 PM
.eugine, on Apr 6 2008, 07:05 PM, said:
I admit, everyone feels jealous. The best way to combat jealously is to simply do better yourself.
Work twice as hard SoT... do better than your GF.
Hahahaha, I can't work any harder than I am right now. The jealousy doesn't come up when I'm with her, it mostly stems from individual stuff done when we're apart. I've really done better lately, but I'm just wanting those last pangs to go away. But kate was right, talking to her will definitely work in this case.
#913
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:20 PM
#915
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:23 PM
If you talk about it, and don't try to combat the reason for jealousy, it'll always be there. I do not think this works for relationships, since it'll seem like if you're competing with her, but it worked for me.
For example, my friends are naturally better than me at specific games, and yeah, I feel jealous. To combat that I practiced, and now, I'm better than most, and the jealousy is now gone ^__^.
If you can be more specific as to what you're jealous about, I guess I can try to use my life experience to help you more.
#916
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:24 PM
That's mostly why things are so awesome right now. Because I'm over the "rookie mistakes" and am being the best I possibly can be for my girlfriend.
#917
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:26 PM
The one thing you shouldn't do is try and be better than her. That will make it a competition, and accelerate this to a point of no return.
#918
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:27 PM
#919
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:28 PM
#920
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:31 PM
#921
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:32 PM
#922
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:32 PM
#923
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:33 PM
#924
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:34 PM
EDIT: coz, I just said that XD
#925
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:36 PM
killercoz, on Apr 6 2008, 07:33 PM, said:
Yeah, that's how I feel. And yeah, that's what kate just said. =D
@ kate: It is easier for guys because history and our culture dictates that we're supposed to ask the girls out. But saying how you feel doesn't hurt. You just can't instigate relationships with the kind of guys you're talking about.
#926
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:44 PM
kate, on Apr 7 2008, 01:59 AM, said:
Give me one example where I think I know everything about women.
I dont give advice about women, I just talk about my experiences. That's not thinking I know everything.
#927
Posted 06 April 2008 - 07:46 PM
And Kate, just work up the confidence. Get drunk if you have to (seeing as that gave you enough confidence to kiss a female :o).
#928
Posted 06 April 2008 - 08:07 PM
And Skidz, are you sure kate wants the entire GSSF population to know that?
#929
Posted 06 April 2008 - 08:16 PM
Sea of Time, on Apr 6 2008, 07:51 PM, said:
Forget it guys. Just talk about Caael's shit. Obviously it's more interesting and "mature".
Would have tried and helped if I had seen this earlier.
kate, on Apr 6 2008, 08:26 PM, said:
The one thing you shouldn't do is try and be better than her. That will make it a competition, and accelerate this to a point of no return.
I agree. You should talk about it. Seriously why should a guy care what another dude thinks?
#930
Posted 06 April 2008 - 08:41 PM
Toasty, on Apr 6 2008, 02:09 AM, said:
Did he start hitting on you again? :o
We actually went out for two weeks. It would have lasted longer if I hadn't had such a big mouth. Lets just say I exaggerate when I'm stressed and upset. I said some things about him that I didn't really mean, and at the time (since it was so early in the relationship) I wasn't sure it was going to last between us. All that was in my blog, and someone from my school who knew the guy told him about it. (they were also the one to report me to the counselor -.-; ). Well he found out about it about a week after I posted the darn thing, and by that point I was starting to get really attached to him. So we decided to forget about it (although he still dwelt on it). But then one night he hung up with me and his parents were all like "I thought we told you to break up with her". (His brother had been there when my ex read the blog, and then told their parents).
I guess he kinda agreed with his parents, because after talking to him, he thought it was the best thing to do. I was just really ticked at myself; it was the first time in a long time that I had actually felt attached to someone, and I blew it.
So me? I'm out of the game I guess until I can figure out how not to ruin a relationship and get attached enough to one person to be in one. So far, neither of those are working out real well for me.
#931
Posted 06 April 2008 - 09:13 PM
And SoT, hate to sound like a broken record but Kate is probably right, and either way Laharl's right, if overly harsh. Your GF is not doing anything wrong, it's a problem with you. The only thing you can rightly do is get over it. Self-improvement can only be good.
#933
Posted 07 April 2008 - 02:12 AM
Icy, on Apr 6 2008, 07:41 PM, said:
We actually went out for two weeks. It would have lasted longer if I hadn't had such a big mouth. Lets just say I exaggerate when I'm stressed and upset. I said some things about him that I didn't really mean, and at the time (since it was so early in the relationship) I wasn't sure it was going to last between us. All that was in my blog, and someone from my school who knew the guy told him about it. (they were also the one to report me to the counselor -.-; ). Well he found out about it about a week after I posted the darn thing, and by that point I was starting to get really attached to him. So we decided to forget about it (although he still dwelt on it). But then one night he hung up with me and his parents were all like "I thought we told you to break up with her". (His brother had been there when my ex read the blog, and then told their parents).
I guess he kinda agreed with his parents, because after talking to him, he thought it was the best thing to do. I was just really ticked at myself; it was the first time in a long time that I had actually felt attached to someone, and I blew it.
So me? I'm out of the game I guess until I can figure out how not to ruin a relationship and get attached enough to one person to be in one. So far, neither of those are working out real well for me.
Blogs are evil and ex's can be pains in the ass. Just remember that, and you'll make far fewer mistakes. :o
But it sounds to me like the blog is what's causeing problems. If I were you, I'd get a new domain name for it. Or if it's on a blogging site, make a new account.
But really, it porbably wouldn't be a bad idea to lay off the blogging for a while. Anyone can read it, so it's fair game.
and I agree with PDM. You should hire some one to "shut him up." :jupiter:
#934
Posted 07 April 2008 - 02:21 AM
#935
Posted 07 April 2008 - 02:40 AM
Sea of Time, on Apr 7 2008, 01:51 AM, said:
How about you face reality and stop being mortally offended by things that dont feed your ego
Dipset, on Apr 7 2008, 01:55 AM, said:
the kind of envy where you have genuine resentment for someone because they have something you dont is the behavior of 8 year olds
kate, on Apr 7 2008, 01:59 AM, said:
i'd appecriate it if you didnt accuse me of sexism.
Sea of Time, on Apr 7 2008, 02:05 AM, said:
Elitism rears its ugly head once again. Experience isnt the only form of knowledge
#936
Posted 07 April 2008 - 02:53 AM
And why's jelousy childish? Everyone is jelous sometimes, saying jelousy is childish is saying that having an ego is childish. I can understand that you want to be better than someone, but not your girlfriend SoT...like I said before, I think you should be pround of her qualities she's your girl, not your rival. :o
#939
Posted 07 April 2008 - 05:49 AM
So back on topic, usually I'd text the girl I like now but I'm actually waiting for her to begin with it and I'll take initiative Thursday if nothing happens while meaningwhile I'm getting her a ****loads of birthday presents. :o
http://img175.imageshack.us/img175/2329/bou0688qz1.th.jpg
So those are the flowers I'm gonna deliver her for her birthday. ^^ It'll cost me 35$ or something (I suck at maths lulz) but it's all worth it.
#940
Posted 07 April 2008 - 05:56 AM
#941
Posted 07 April 2008 - 06:13 AM
#944
Posted 07 April 2008 - 03:27 PM
#945
Posted 07 April 2008 - 03:29 PM
I hope you know, usually things pictured in your fantasy world are far different from reality.
#949
Posted 07 April 2008 - 03:40 PM
Laharl, on Apr 7 2008, 02:40 AM, said:
Obviously, if my ego was as big as I make it out to be, I wouldn't be asking for advice in the first place.
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I never said I was envious, and if I sent that message, I'm sorry. It's more of a feeling of inferiority.
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I was on the computer today looking up the exact definition of an inferiority complex, and it seems to me like it might be my problem since I have all the qualities of someone who's introverted. I was raised being told I had potential in school, at sports, and the like. I still get told by my parents that I have potential today. But it's always like it's off in the distance and not quite achievable. I guess because of this I developed something like an inferiority complex where the accomplishments of those around me are magnified and I focus on how I'm not better at that specific point than them. It's not only my girlfriends, but also my peers around me. I think that why I singled out my gf is because I spend more time talking/spending time with her so the inferior thing is magnified.
I know what I have to do, and nothing you can tell me is really going to help. I have to start focusing on what I do best (writing, debating) and not focus on what others do best. Everyone has their own talents, and I have to stop focusing on the talents of others and start focusing on my own for my own benefit.
Don't think I'm not proud of my girlfriend for what she does in her life. And all things considered, she doesn't do that much more than I do. But sometimes I feel like it's a whole lot more than it is. That's something I have to work out on my own.
#950
Posted 07 April 2008 - 03:45 PM
#951
Posted 07 April 2008 - 03:47 PM
#953
Posted 07 April 2008 - 03:52 PM
#954
Posted 07 April 2008 - 04:06 PM
#957
Posted 07 April 2008 - 05:33 PM
Toasty, on Apr 7 2008, 01:12 AM, said:
But it sounds to me like the blog is what's causeing problems. If I were you, I'd get a new domain name for it. Or if it's on a blogging site, make a new account.
But really, it porbably wouldn't be a bad idea to lay off the blogging for a while. Anyone can read it, so it's fair game.
Did all that. I first realized that the person read my blog and told my ex. I immediately changed the domain name and made it private (something I didn't realize I could do). Then I found out that person had also reported me to the counselor, but by the time I changed my domain name, my dad had already read it and knew about my "condition". I just blog rather than journal 'cause I type five times faster than write. And I'm already on the computer while doing so.
Sea of Time, on Apr 7 2008, 03:06 PM, said:
Nonono. First step: Focus on what you do best. Or just be sarcastic. What? It really does create a smug sense of superiority :3
#959
Posted 07 April 2008 - 06:30 PM
Diddy, don't build things up. When I get mad at someone I go home and I can't help but think of a huge speech to tell them the next day about exactly why I feel bad, but conversations never go the way you plan them, and then you just end up feeling like you missed out. Just let it flow naturally. Seriously, people are telling you that because it's so damn true, and you don't want to fall from the heights you've set for yourself.
Icy, wow that's a bummer. Guys suck, I feel your pain
#962
Posted 10 April 2008 - 05:48 AM
#964
Posted 10 April 2008 - 10:47 AM
#965
Posted 10 April 2008 - 03:22 PM
#967
Posted 11 April 2008 - 10:44 AM
#968
Posted 11 April 2008 - 07:10 PM
#969
Posted 11 April 2008 - 07:32 PM
#970
Posted 11 April 2008 - 11:59 PM
....just thought I'd throw that out there.
#972
Posted 12 April 2008 - 01:50 AM
drama time!
There's a guy that's become one of my best friends that told me today that his crush on my friend was starting to fade. And he's the kind of person where once he likes someone, he'll stick to them until someone else does or affects him major to take his attention away.
We ride the same bus and always sit next to each other, but to me, he's like a big brother. He drives me nuts when he goes off on his rants about guns, and there are times when he acts like he knows what he's talknig about, but doesn't. At the same time, I like having someone who will let me sleep on their shoulder when I'm tired and not take advantage of me, and rather, protect me with their life.
But I'm afraid that if he starts to like me that I won't be able to say it back, or worse, I'll say it back, but not mean it, and break his heart. Yet I don't know if I should take the chance and think about it more, because there might be something there I can't see.
#973
Posted 12 April 2008 - 01:58 AM
#975
Posted 12 April 2008 - 05:13 AM
Icy, there's no need to think about that yet if he's not showing any signs of liking you. You seem to think that every male-female relationship has to be a love one. No it doesn't. You can be regular friends for ever, seriously.
#976
Posted 12 April 2008 - 08:26 AM
#977
Posted 12 April 2008 - 10:51 PM
Caael, on Apr 11 2008, 11:21 PM, said:
No. I've never asked someone out. I just thought that should be said. Regardless, it's still true. If you really like someone, and you don't know if they like you, then it's incredibly stressful to just go up and tell them how you feel. I still haven't been able to get passed that stress myself.
#981
Posted 12 April 2008 - 11:26 PM
#986
Posted 12 April 2008 - 11:43 PM
Anyway, I just figured out the solutiona to Icy's problem. Gay men. :P
#987
Posted 12 April 2008 - 11:45 PM
@.eugine: As uncommon it would be for 2 people of the oppisite sex to be just friends.
#988
Posted 13 April 2008 - 06:17 AM
Toasty, on Apr 13 2008, 06:51 AM, said:
No. I've never asked someone out. I just thought that should be said. Regardless, it's still true. If you really like someone, and you don't know if they like you, then it's incredibly stressful to just go up and tell them how you feel. I still haven't been able to get passed that stress myself.
That's not true. I know tons of guys/girls who have friends of the opposite sex with whom they act differently then with friends of the same gender. I have female friends who I always kiss on the cheek when we meet up and when we are leaving each other to go home/wherever, and I sometimes hold hands with them and stuff like that. Things I don't do do with my guy friends. Well, actually, we do often kiss each other on the cheeks... But in a different way than with girls.
I'm a strong believer in friendships of the opposite sex, simply because I have female friends, but I don't deny that these friendships can often turn into a real relationship.
#989
Posted 13 April 2008 - 06:22 AM
*coughonenightstandcough*
#991
Posted 13 April 2008 - 11:12 AM
Aquamarine, on Apr 13 2008, 05:17 AM, said:
Ah, but you live in a different culture than Icy, Toasty, and I do. We live in America, dammit, and you don't get away with kissing people on the cheek unless you're romantically involved or really, REALLY close and even then you don't do it often. It's the way we are. Anti-social and insecure. =P
#992
Posted 13 April 2008 - 03:14 PM
Wind Dude, on Apr 13 2008, 07:12 PM, said:
Oh, well, I didn't know that.
And um... Yesterday was the first time in my life I kissed a guy full on the mouth... I'm not gay though, honest! We just had a little too much beer, and this guy is one of my best friends, and... it just happened.
#993
Posted 13 April 2008 - 03:24 PM
Gooo anti-social and insecure!! Yeah I've never seen anyone kiss at all in greeting, girls hug and guys punch each other XD Still, girl/guy friendships are difficult. Which sucks because I like having guy friends more than girl friends, except at certain times.
#996
Posted 13 April 2008 - 03:31 PM
kate, on Apr 13 2008, 11:24 PM, said:
It's not going to change anything, I'm 100% sure about it. It was a joke, and he's the biggest womanizer(if that's the right word) I know. He has sex practically every week and most often with different girls. He lost his virginity when he was 14. There's no way he'll suddenly become gay. And he's also one of the biggest jokers I know, and this is just a typical thing he would do.
EDIT: Didn't see the last two posts, but my answer is pretty much in teh above text I wrote. I didn't feel absolutely anything though.
#997
Posted 13 April 2008 - 03:35 PM
Don't really talk about anything sexual in general anyway, so yeah.
#998
Posted 13 April 2008 - 04:41 PM
Aquamarine, on Apr 13 2008, 05:14 PM, said:
And um... Yesterday was the first time in my life I kissed a guy full on the mouth... I'm not gay though, honest! We just had a little too much beer, and this guy is one of my best friends, and... it just happened.
Been there, done that. It was more us being E'd out retards, than being drunk, but you get the point.
#999
Posted 13 April 2008 - 09:10 PM
Aquamarine, on Apr 13 2008, 05:14 PM, said:
And um... Yesterday was the first time in my life I kissed a guy full on the mouth... I'm not gay though, honest! We just had a little too much beer, and this guy is one of my best friends, and... it just happened.
I didnt know you were gay.
#1000
Posted 13 April 2008 - 09:39 PM
And hey, friendship is a kind of relationship!
@aqua: wow, I so agree with kate. Pictures please! :P